Love Should Have No Preferences

A glimpse of trying online dating after being a widow for over four years. Trying to figure this thing out.

Where can I begin there is so much to say on this matter but I will try to put it in delicate terms where my message can come across as clear as possible. Recently I joined an online dating site and placed a photo of myself in which I thought was real nice but I had somewhat a feeling of deceit being that the photo was taken when I was in my early 20’s. It was the only photo that I had at the time of myself because I do not consider myself to be photogenic or anything, so I found the best picture possibly I had on hand.  I found this online dating site that have pictures of women and men of all sizes and races looking for that special someone to share their lives with but as I browse through some of the profiles I found them to be very superficial. Instead of just looking for that someone special they were looking for someone based on their looks.  I tried to make my profile as honest as possible but only to find myself coming short to what guys on this particular dating site was looking for. As I received some flirts and some email messages I was getting a little excited to see that someone had taken an interest in my profile and wanted to get to know me a little better. As my quest for romance was shortly slighted I realized that I was not being totally 100% honest to the guys that I had met, even to the guys that were viewing my profile based upon the picture that I had placed on there. So I came to this conclusion that a lot of guys are looking for someone based on how they looked and not based on what is actually in your heart. From reading several guys profiles I saw things based totally on what a woman looked like instead of totally emphasizing on a woman’s character.

            Instead of being honest about the person that I am I found out this is not what they are really looking for at least the majority of them. Tell me when did love have a preference, I didn’t know that love only came in the size of a 5,7 and 9 body type. I thought love came from what was inside of a person heart instead of what was on the outside of a person body. I understand that we would like to meet someone who may have the same body type as we do or close to it or someone who is physically attractive in appearance but that is not always the case with love. For example take Heidi Klum and her husband Seal when you look at them you may wonder why is this beautiful woman with this seemly unattractive man. We may see one thing but she may be looking at his heart and not his just appearance. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and she is the one who is beholding him so in her eyes he is beautiful and he is just right for her. So, to get back to what I am saying about love I believe in my own opinion when we are searching for love we should look a little deeper than what is on the outside and see what is on the inside. Because beauty can fade any day but when it is the inner beauty you have it is for a lifetime. Is that what we should be looking for when we are searching for that special someone to share our lives with, or should we be so shallow to succumb to the pressure of what a person looks like on the outside! In essence what I am trying to say is when you find love don’t let it be based on what a person looks like on the outside, find love by looking at the person’s heart then you will find a mate that is worth having forever. When God created all mankind he made us all beautiful because he is the beholder of us all! So I say to all those who may think they are too big, too small, too dark, too light, too ugly or whatever hang up you may have about yourself, I empower you to think again because you are beautiful and it is someone out there that will see it through non-prejudicial eyes and see your worth. As for me I will continue to search for love online whether someone sees my worth without seeing my body is not important to me anymore, because truly beauty is only skin deep! Let’s see where this takes me; will I find that special someone base on my character or my looks…who knows?

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