The Order of Pen

THE ORDER OF PEN

"It's alright to not being a man when its not necessary or dependent on someone, you dont need to put your armour on when you are weak or wounded,dont die a foolish death.A brave heart can heal and reclaim what belongs to. him.we are men with newspaper brains, television souls and high school ideas.we are making a generation of strong intellectuals with very weak mindset who are very motivated to be successful overnight.You cannot change your destination overnight but you can change your direction, So choose wisely"


The recent incident convinced me to come back here. Just after 37 hours when my parents were all set to make the most important deal of my life I had to make the hardest choice of my life.The guy i had spent 19 years of my life with was on his death bed.Doctors gave me a choice to make in 30 seconds whether to put him on a ventillator or leave him dying.He was suffering from acute pancreatitis from 7 years, I was with him until last year he decided to be strong and independent..he started doing things on his own,he was so quiet that we all forgot his sufferings. High medical dosages lead him to hypoglycaemia which affected his organs..We were all hoping for a miracle and yes he made it.After 4 days he opened his eyes I walked to him and ask why didnt you tell me anything we are together for years and you didnt tell me a word.. He said i Dont want to be a burden on anyone, you guys are dealing with your problems. He was a guy with high ambitions and life of a party but he sacrificed himself for something thats not even worth a penny compared to him. Those 3 months were very painful, the phases of vent,Icu and on and off hospitaliziation.He tried but didnt make it and we lost a life that can be saved,Who sacrificed himself for some motivational story.
Another case i know was a very dear friend of me.who was suffering from the first day of her pregnancy but her in laws advised her to be brave and bear the pain as it is normal.she died in the 6th month of her pregnancy trying to be brave and strong.. I have hundreds of examples but the main issue here is these motivational,these illusional and inappropriate guidance leading our generations into dark abyss.

I saw hundreds of motivational quotes,unrealistic videos, irrelevent criteria of succeses everyday and people following them blindly without even thinking.These motivational speakers are earning from their words they are teaching you the ways dont actually exist.They teach you the results,work hard,focusing on your dreams but they will never teach you the directions.There is no way you can change your destination, its just a matter of "when" which depends on the phase you are moving and "How" which lies on the road we are taking..There are great many opinions in this world and a good half of them are professed by people who have never been in trouble.

I was affiliated with an NGO working for health services.. most of the patients who were teen agers or early 20's are those who were very enthusiasist to change their lives overnight suffering from sleep disorders,anxiety issues,bipolar disorders and other mental health issues.. focusing on your goal is not something you called success focus on yourself and then move steadily towards your goal leads you to success.


Your goal should be that Your tomorrow must be better than your today.Before focusing on your goal focus on yourself,before working hard on something work hard on yourself. Make yourself versatile,learn to conquer your surrounding. Before filling your life with materialistic things Fill yourself with life.set your goals according to your ground realities,set small goals and acheive them gradually. Every action you take is a vote for the person you wish to become. Choose wisely, you were not born to just go to work and pay bills and die. Learn to live for yourself,give yourself time.. peace begins from within,if you are not peaceful from inside,the world you see will be chaotic and if something costs you your peace it's too expensive so being selective with your battles.
Always choose yourself over anything, your grades your hard work is not taking you anywhere unless you make yourself worthy.if you want to run fast you will sacrifice all the things and people who left behind.so better learn to keep things in balance.Learn to trust people and be trustworthy yourself,to be trusted is greater compliment than anything else..maintain good work life balance which is daily acheivement and enjoyment in each of your four life quadrants work,family,friends and self.Examine your situation,think about what your most important values are and how you want to spend your time,take care of your health,learn to say No,Plan things that you like for your personal time.

Choose very wisely.whatever choice you make Makes you.You are free to choose but you are not free from the consequences of your choices. Always choose what makes you happy.The things you are chasing today might not be more than hedonic adoptation when you reach them they'll only give you temporary happiness so dont ruin your personality chasing something thats not worth it..Trust me your preferences will change with age but if you are committed to people around you and keep yourself positive you'll get more chances and you'll be easily noticed.your perfect girl or guy you want today after 25 they wont even be in your wishlist.. you will prefer someone with progressive mindset,someone who brings stability to your life with whom you can grow together..

So choose very wisely,learn to negotiate with people, it is fine to give up on anything.if it doesnt open it's not your door.silence is not courage learn to speak out.follow your dreams but dont follow illusions..work hard on your self and your mental health.. enjoy your life as it is the most beautiful gift from God.be thankful for what you have.Any good life story can be a success story but every success story without a good life story is imcomplete.. Be the change you wish to see in this world.. Dont die like another from 7 billion be the chosen one. You are already successful if you are feeding your family,if someone is dependent on you. You might be a home maker, you are already doing an amazing job educating and raising a generation.. consider yourself equal,no one's opinion is filling your pockets..