Thats not easy , but if you feel it can hurt you, you just need to do what is good for YOU. Nothing should risk what you have right now, you are in fragile situation yourself, you don't need to get more presure and tesnse to your life. Also, you can't fix the prolems of all the world, you have enuff, and you need all the energy to deal with your own. I think you need to tell her that you have serios problems right now, and that you can't meet her after work. Don't tell more, just say its too privat. You dont have to give more details, just say you CANT right now. She will understand and look for other directions. Each time she will ask if you are ok or so, just say, yes I am dealing with it. After a while she will stop asking.
Dont feel bad with that because thats what you have to do to survive. There are friends at work and life after, and the line should be clear, it work for anyone like that, since she try to pass the line, and you are not intersting, you just put it back , make it more clear and its good. She will be fine. Yossi
This sounds like such a situation! But the writing first.. I feel sincerity in this piece.. to the reader the writer stuck in between a rock and a hard place... but really does not wish to be a liar or hurt the other party... It flows well to guide the reader through with no major hang ups.. though my instinct is to put a question mark at the very last sentence of your piece. :)
I don't know if you are friends with others outside of work, but if you are not maybe just indicating that you are not comfortable with hanging out with people that you work with outside of work? A line of professionalism maybe? If you already do hang out with people from work after work, then I do feel your pain... I wish you luck!
Thought provoking ink... because it makes me wonder now... What I would do in your situation?
Well, geez my dear, this is quite a question. Hmmm . . . (I'm thinking, here) . . . well, normally, I would side on the honesty part of things, but you have your job here, at stake, so my advice would be to kindly "distance" yourself from said person. If she asks to hang out with you after work, I would make up an excuse not to. I would be kind and cordial at work, but your life outside of work, should not include her, if you so choose. And, it sounds like that is what you are choosing. So a fib, here or there, is quite worth it, and eventually she will move on.
Other than that, another fine outpouring of emotions in your own brand of poetic form!
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