A Way Out - EverytimeA Story by EshaA small fun lesson turned the biggest learning of lifeBeing an army officer’s daughter meant, you have to
be in control and lead a life of discipline. I mean, it is something ingrained
within all of us. My father always wanted me to be self reliant, as much as
possible. My sister is seven years younger to me and even she was subjected to
a similar regime. Being the eldest of the two, I ended up being the person who
would do things so that my sis could do the same, when her time came. But, my sister turned out to be the smarter one.
My father had a very peculiar habit. Well, at that
time it appeared to be peculiar but now, when I look back, it is much more than
just a fond memory. It is priceless. I would probably give an arm to get my
childhood back. I am sure; there are a lot of people who would do the same. We
also tend to love that part of our being, which is buried in the past. There is
a weird sense of comfort in the past like …wearing an old tee. You know it so
well, it even it fits you well too. We love our past because, we have been
through it and since we know what happened, therefore we feel that if we could
be there again, we could do better. “Baah,
ignorant humans…ufff!!!” So, back to my father again and his habit.
“Aami Jodi
toke eikhane chhede di, tui badi jete parbi?” (If I leave you right here,
will you be able to go home?). This was like his standard dialogue or question
that he had for me, throughout my childhood. I mean, whenever we encountered a
bend in the road or some shady trees or the Sadar
Bazaar, he would ask me this same question, over and over again, everytime.
I always wondered what fool he was, to
ask me this same question when I knew the area like the back of my hand.
Sometimes I would even tell him too, “Baba
aami eyi raasta jani. Aami badi pahunche jabo” (Father, I know my way. So I
will reach home). My Bengali has a very dominant Hindi twang to it. This is
probably because both my parents speak good, flawless Hindi.
Before, I delve deeper, into my dad’s psyche, let me
give you a brief intro about my parents. My dad is a Benarasi to the core and
can speak gajab Bhojpuri.
Unfortunately, I can’t, but can understand ektu
ektu (little little). So, that is how we are UPites. Pravasi Bengalis. My mother, on the other hand, is again an army
officer’s daughter. So …the Hindi is flawless and without the so obvious and at
times downright embarrassing, Bengali influence to it. Therefore, when I we speak,
I do not come across as a Bengali and leave people guessing at times.
Haan, so where was I? Ok, the question that my dad
always asked me. Hmmm…so this was at times downright boring too because it
would be the same question everytime. I guess, he too realized it after awhile
and therefore each time the locations were new and difficult to remember. And
each time, I kind of subconsciously programmed myself to remember the places
around me. When confronted with this question, I would smartly try to tell him
all that I could remember. And he seemed satisfied too. Now I really don’t know
whether he really was or not, but he seemed so. There were times when he would
tell about a few landmarks which I should have observed but had very clearly
missed. The whole exercise was great fun but looked a little lame to me at
times. Same question over a period of time and that too with similar answers;
this was kind of a boring game to me. More than the answers it was the futility
of an exercise that seemingly bore no results whatsoever. At least that is what
it appeared to me at that point in time.
I particularly remember one such incident, when my
father was posted in Meerut, in UP. Our house was a temporary accommodation
which had a very eerie feeling to it. This house was so near to the railway
tracks that the entire house vibrated like a cell phone whenever the train sped
through the tracks. Baba and me would at times, walk on the railway tracks
carefully avoiding s**t cakes and remains of the discarded food that the
passengers threw. We would walk till kankarkheda.
Though, it was a straight track with no bends but the area around was like a
maze of houses some built in cement and some in some in tin sheets. Children,
half clothed or even naked, ran about chasing cycle tires with sticks or
playing marbles while the mother pig and her piglets happily snorted and
grunted their way through heaps of stinking garbage, near half wet half dried
swamps, buzzing with mosquitoes. In those days, dengue and their cousins of
diseases were quite unheard of. All we knew was malaria and DDT was the most
relevant answer to all of that. Clad in white kurta pyjamas and me in my frocks and chappals, I loved the walk that I took with my dad. I loved the way
he would not inundate with probing questions like a ‘helicopter father’ but
would let me quietly observe. Perhaps that’s why I like solitude so much and
hate when I find someone asking me questions or trying to know me.
All this kind of stopped as I grew up; as I got
involved in studies, friends and other interests and he got sidelined. Now it
was no longer me and baba; the connection got buried under the sand gradually.
Now he was no longer the man who I took walks with, but the man who I avoided
because he gave some really dreadful lectures and like all adolescent kids I
was in my most rebellious stages. Anything and everything told to me was like
poison to my ears. I would simply refuse to listen, forget about understanding.
Sparing minutes for parents was like a chore that I didn’t like. Ah! The
futility of those adolescent ages when you are right and the world is up
against you and how wrong it is all the time.
And now, it is the same me longing to be with my parents. But one day I
will and that will be another story.
Now, when I think about it, maybe it was his way of
making sure that his dear daughter would pay attention to the various landmarks
that were there n the way and thus would never lose her way. He is one man in
my life who would hate to see me losing or even losing track of my purpose or
worth, for sure. It was his way of ascertaining that I would be on this little
training of sorts from the very beginning. What seemed like a stupid foolish
act on his part, made more sense when I grew up. Whenever I would get lost as
in really get lost or lose track of myself I would remember him and be calm and
start remembering my surroundings, those landmarks or those milestones from
wherever my life turned to become worse. The confidence that he instilled in me
years ago when I didn’t even know the meaning and the spelling too, has been
with me throughout. In all these years I have never felt otherwise. Yes there
have been times, I felt lost or realised that the sense of direction was
leaving me, this little game that I played with my father reminded me of all
that my father taught or try to put in that head of mine already occupied with
fantasies, dreams and my own thoughts. He taught me in his own way, never to panic and lose
my mind. Instead I needed to be calm and find my way out. No matter how much
time it took or whatever I had to face, I had to come out. I will walk out a
little scarred perhaps, a little bruised may be, but I will find my way back
home.
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