Move On

About how my life changed and how adoption affected me.

Lose It Or Move On With It?

Have you ever had where someone you like is taken from you. Also where no matter what you do or try to do it does nothing good before the loved one is gone. Well that’s what happened to me and my sister Kim and how the mom we loved and who took care of us was then taken away from us. It was as if we had dreamed her being taken away from us but instead it was real and done right before our eyes. That is also the day I will not forget how I saw my mom for the last time and how I was crying and was confused all at the same time.

It first began when I was opening my eyes in the orphanage lying on my bed ready to start the day and i was not really expecting anything important to happen. As usual My sister and I had where we both would meet each other after breakfast. So as we had started we went with each other and no one else and sat at a tree and we would talk about when we thought our mom was going to pick us up. Even though many people had told us that our mom was never going to reclaim us I would always said “ You don’t know that” the reason that I  would say this was to help Kim and I to believe that she would come back and to never give up. As the kids began to leave us along the director of the orphanage had begun to to walk where we had been. With the director walking towards us kids and other people began to whisper and to point at the both of us. It also felt like we were about to get yield right in front of everyone because if the director was walking towards you it meant that you must have done something wrong. But as he got there Kim and I could tell it was something else that he was going to talk to us about. After he had talked to us we were asked to follow him and not to argue and to just do as we are asked to do.

The next thing I knew was we were asked to get into a black car with the director. As we had began to move and leave the orphanage the director was talking to us but neither Kim or I was paying any attention to him and what he was saying to us. So it had been a while before I realized that the director was getting more serious and finally kim and I heard him say something about our mom that he had said but either of us got exactly what it was and we did not ask him to repeat it because we did not know if we would get in trouble. All the sudden the car stops and my heart also stops as if it had hit a rock . Another minute passed but to me it felt like eternity and then we get out and walk the steps that are in front of us as we did my heart began to pound harder and harder. The next thing I saw with my sister was our mom.

As we saw her it was different because she was in a separate room with a glass in front with holes in it. I thought that it was a mistake that she was in there. As I began to ask why she was in there the director said that it was for a purpose and that both of us only had a little time to talk to her. Another thing I had noticed that I could not believe was that my mom was handcuffed with her hand behind her. The next thing that hit me like a truck (2 Simile) was the director said she can not be our mom and that we were going to be adopted. I could hardly believe that this was happening and that no matter what I said to try to change this I could not do anything. Finally my mom said that last words before she was taken away from us was “ it’s ok and that everything will workout”. Then just like that we were in a different room and it seemed like none of this happened but it had happened. That was also the day I learned that it can be very hard to move on with your life and sometimes you just have to accept it and deal with it.(3 word of the wiser)

That is how adoption has changed my life and that even though things can be hard on your life just is just best to accept it. Also that there can be good and bad effects on anything that you do or happens to you.

Reviews

[Chris Shaw]

A moving write and I hope that both you and your sister were adopted into the same family because it would be tragic in my opinion if you weren't. Sometimes things just don't work out with parents, it happens a great deal but that is no consolation to the children involved. I am sorry about what happened to your mom. I hope your adoptive family have treated you with the utmost kindness and that you can look forward to your life. There was a note of optimism at the end of your story. (I have brought up my three grandchildren for the last 16 years, so know a bit about how children feel in these circumstances)

[Pete]

Yes my sister and I were adopted into the same family and thank you.

[Chris Shaw]

So good to know you have your sister with you.