What do Women Want?

I surely do not know.

Different women

Different critiques.

Different wounding.

 

She said "You're too quiet."

She said "You talk too much."

She said "You are too nice and tender."

She said "You are too dominating. and cruel"

She said "You are too soft."

She said "You are too rough."

She said "You are are too gentle."

She said "You are too hard."

 

All of these things are me

And apparently not good enough

I used to blame the "hers" in my life

Now I wonder if it was all me.

 

Do I need to find balance?

Do I need a better woman?

Should I only show

    Those parts of me

       That "she" wants?

 

Whoever she may be.

Reviews

[Dye]

Even women don't know what they want. It changes day to day LOL. The most you can do is be yourself and find someone that can tolerate you, in every way. Good luck finding an answer to a question that has no one solution.

[OBWhiteHawk]

Yes I think it can all come, from the same woman, those different needs. I am getting to this point of just being done with trying to figure out things. Just let it go and be myself. Not "do me" because thats selfish but "be me."

[shallimarRose]

Sometimes it takes all these bits and pieces to make one complete whole.. thought provoking read..
shallimarRose

[OBWhiteHawk]

I am starting to understand that, all of those things are me at different times or maybe all at the same time, lol.

[Baby Ricochet]

What do women want? Credit cards

[OBWhiteHawk]

LOL if thats true...........I am out. ;)

[shallimarRose]

lol BR....

[Riding the Rainbow]

We're really cryptic creatures but sometimes we don't know what we want. BUT be always yourself. If she likes you, she'll talk to you about her doubts about you or about what she doesn't like about your behaviour with her...sometimes we(women) are cruel..just like men. You need to stay away to that kind of woman that not makes you feel good inside since the first time you look at her. I believe in love at first sight and being very sensitive about everything that surround me, I know when to take a step away from a certain kind of man. It's like that their souls talk to mine and warn it to stay away. Listen to your inner soul...it'll know what to do. Hope I didn't confuse you and that I helped you a bit. Best wishes, K.

[OBWhiteHawk]

Good advice, and I will try to remember this when I am caught up in the moment and simply hoping to impress. Breathing helps too, lol.

[Emily B]

always, always be yourself, if she loves you, she love all parts of you, just the way you are, if she loves herself, then she will try to remake you into something that looks more like the love she wants

[OBWhiteHawk]

I know this logically and then I get around a woman I like and all logic flies away! But yes, I will try to remember this advice. I am too old to learn how to be anything different than me, anyways, lol.

[Emily B]

too many have tried to re-make me into the image of a woman they hoped for . . . they still don't realize what a treasure i wasw all along

one guy knows :)

[OBWhiteHawk]

And you knew that you were a treasure, thats what matters. Glad you found one that does know. ;)

[Emily B]

maybe i didn't always, but it is starting to sink in

i can darn socks, feed armies and make dresses, i don't kill spiders anymore I leave them to their webs in the corners

[The Analog Kid]

Nice answer Emily:)

[OBWhiteHawk]

Don't kill spiders? You are more powerful than I am, then! I get how it takes a long time to see your own value, still working on that.

[Emily B]

my children are not happy about the peace treaty, but you have to start somewhere

[OBWhiteHawk]

True, true, lol.

[Frieda P]

Ha I read the title and thought are you serious, no one can answer that question, not even us! Good one!

[OBWhiteHawk]

Haha no I don't guess I was serious, and I think the shoe on the other foot fits just as snugly.

[Brett Pritchard]

Ah this made me smile OBWH.
It's something us guys (and girls too I feel sure) can relate to all too readily.
No matter where we plant our flag if you will, another aspect of ourselves is deemed wrong.
I love the innovative use of colour here friend. Very clever.

Truth is I think that there's no such thing as an entirely contented relationship.
People don't fit together like a puzzle, certainly not naturally. It's like Prof Richard Dawkins says and he's right; we are all born as intrinsically selfish beings. It's an evolutionary necessity. We don't fit naturally, we learn to adapt and make sacrifices. But no relationshio is ever easy or entirely pleasant.

Well done friend, great writing!

BP

[OBWhiteHawk]

Wow thank you for noticing the use of color, to be honest I was proud of that idea and had a lot of fun with it at the time. You are so right, and I love how you say this - people don't fit together as a puzzle. I think that we truly believe that is what is supposed to happen. We find that piece that completes us, and live happily ever after. But that is not the case is it?

[Brett Pritchard]

Happily ever after is something I think I'll only ever believe in when I get there....

And I think if we ever do. Any of us? Well... You must have to have a lot of arguments and disagreements first. Someone has to know your faults to accept your good points.

To put in a brutally vivid context; you have to hate someone if you truly love them, and that works both ways. You have to go through the darkest valleys before you can walk honestly in the sunshine.... That's my opinion anyhow.

BP

[OBWhiteHawk]

Wow very dark and yet I am sure that is true! It's like really? Happily ever is a joke since nobody in any situation is always happy, right? But yeah, you do sometimes hate the person you love, and it is really great when it's so damn horrible and then becomes awesome again. I think that is called make up sex. ;)

[Tree]

It was was good reading the reviews left by women here. In this forum people are trained to express themselves, truthfully and thoughtfully, so their insight on these matters is always welcomed. I liked what Rita said about balance, it is the key. Size up the woman every day and say to yourself, "Who are you today, and what do you want?'' Then adjust; it can be exhausting.

Excellent and thought provoking piece.

[OBWhiteHawk]

You are right, man, it can be exhausting. I am taking a bit of a break at the moment from it all, but I think the balance part is important.

[Quill~]

We "women" are complex creatures...sometimes we don't know what we want, other times we are direct about our needs. "Go figure!" *shrugs*
But one thing we are not is boring. ;D
Thought provoking write. :)

[OBWhiteHawk]

You are right, women are definitely not boring. And to be honest I am not sure that we men are sure what we want either. Thanks for reading!

[Quill~]

ha! see?...it goes both ways!
my pleasure. :)

[Rita L. Sev]

It's all a delicate balance - what "she" wants changes from day to day, and so does what "he" wants. When it's the right pairing, you learn to anticipate what the other will want that day... A good poem, something to think about!

[OBWhiteHawk]

Sometimes I wonder if I was trying to hard to be what the different "shes" wanted and not being what I wanted to be. Still learning ... thanks for reading.