This was written to capture the aftermath of a man dealing with the struggles of everyday life after losing his wife. What you are reading is what he hears in his head, it’s his wife’s voice reminding him of what to do and what’s to come. The lines in italics speak his response.
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Kelly,
for the longest time, after Pat died, I would lie in bed and caress oa pillow she had used and whose texture and shape were the same as her thigh... and that's all i am able to say here... now.
Vol
Posted 4 Weeks Ago
4 Weeks Ago
...enough said, my friend. No apologies needed. I overwhelmingly understand and thank you!
Sigh,
I wrote the above before I scrolled down and saw I had responded a year ago already..... read moreSigh,
I wrote the above before I scrolled down and saw I had responded a year ago already... It is one of the great beauties in poetry that every encounter sparkles differently.
Here (pause) I wish the hug I just gave you was more than digital...
Vol
You can still lose a wife even when she still has a life; but you no longer do.
I sincerely wish I could conjure up some magical italics to respond to this emotional quicksand that is following me.
Posted 1 Month Ago
4 Weeks Ago
I am deeply sorry for your pain, Charles. Yes, this was written for the aftermath of death, but eve.. read moreI am deeply sorry for your pain, Charles. Yes, this was written for the aftermath of death, but even still, your loss is very palpable in the same way. Thank you for your presence here. Always a pleasure seeing you!
2 Weeks Ago
Hearts and hands have the same ability, they both can reach out for empathy and understanding. Touch.. read moreHearts and hands have the same ability, they both can reach out for empathy and understanding. Touch. Take a deep breath.
Kelly - this is so, so powerful! I'm very fortunate, and I still have my wife. I know that she would
provide me with a "to-do list" if and when the time comes.
Thank you for helping to remind me of the treasure I have.
Take care - Dave
Posted 9 Months Ago
4 Months Ago
So sorry this was overlooked, Dave. Thank you for a lovely review!
Finding a penny can be a fortune to someone needy, sad, empty. yes? But losing ' precious' , the heart stops yet - life goes on. And in spite of promising to carry on bravely valuing memories as if life itself.. one feels empty. Feels as if it's a crime to not feel what has been, not to hear what one's ears crave for, a brief chat and a touch, gentle sleep - together. What should have been real, becomes.. a sane insanity of comfort.
Perhaps.
Kelly,
What a lovely account! I am touched because of the note and the poignancy of how powerful the little things can be. It is a common theme you have dressed in beautiful clothes. They are, after all, what make us, the accumulated actions of the day punctuated by bits of tragedy, bits of beauty, and bits of careful thought which, taken together, make something as simple as taking supper from the freezer to thaw, a meaningful act.
Nicely done!
Vol
Thanks so much, Vol. I haven't a clue how I missed this. Please accept my apology for my brain fog.. read moreThanks so much, Vol. I haven't a clue how I missed this. Please accept my apology for my brain fog!
4 Months Ago
Kelly,
I kind of feel like, since we have interacted outside the WC, we are friends/ Friends .. read moreKelly,
I kind of feel like, since we have interacted outside the WC, we are friends/ Friends don't need to apologize...
Vol
An extremely difficult concept
I don't mean to belittle this at all but even losing the dogs I have loved has been extremely heartbreaking
Losing that special person would be too difficult to comprehend
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
I overwhelmingly agree, Dave! Losing a pet is just as devastating a loss as any other. And for tho.. read moreI overwhelmingly agree, Dave! Losing a pet is just as devastating a loss as any other. And for those who don't have a dog or cat, how could they possibly comprehend the void that loss leaves? Thank you for bringing that into perspective here.
Losing someone that close is impossible to consider ... you have taken a look at the other side of loss Kelly ... the one left behind struggling to cope and too maintain a calm façade for the children.
Well done.
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
I know men process grief differently. I witnessed my step father and two adult brothers when my mom.. read moreI know men process grief differently. I witnessed my step father and two adult brothers when my mom died, and it's something I'll never forget. I may have only touched upon the magnitude of the the struggle, but all the same, I deeply appreciate your every word. Thank you, Ted!
say it like it is why don'tcha and like it always was and maybe always shall be .. there certainly is a lot more to this than first meets the eye .. indeed, I think it is very cerebral and your informative authors note beautifully complemented my own impression .. N :)
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
Your presence here is a compliment in itself. Thank you, Nev!