Withering and rising

It is common knowledge that life has its unique ways for each and every person to offer challenges, which can most of the times transform themselves into emotional rollercoasters. Break ups are one such method because they consist of a multitude of feelings which can shake someone's beliefs about the reaction they should have in such a moment. In my point of view, we should not be sad because sorrowful because a relationship has come to an end, but instead, take the wisdom andbe thankful because we had a chance to live such an experience, for a variety of reasons.

Firstly, we gain the ability to reflect on ourselves on a much deeper level. Often times, we tend to let the negative feelings such as anger, frustration, confusion, consume us due to the lack of power caused by the separation from the loved person. Rathen than allowing the void in our soul to become more paintul than it already, meditating on the situation and acknowledging all our feelings is a better approach towards healing. For example, a similar range of sentiments is also present when we finish a good book. Instead of thinking about the ''loss'', thinking about the impact it had on us and not ignoring what our heart says about this experience can be a welcomed cure for the soul. In this way, we look at the situations from more angles, resulting in a better understanding of what has happened and why.

Secondly, beark ups are a way to rediscover ourselves, even when we believe that we cannot move forward. Every stage in life has its lessons we are taught in different matters. A relationship is an experience, a break up, another one. It is sa way to learn how to receive certain events and how to navigate through difficult times. For instance, we are overjoyed when we see flowers in the nature bloom, but we become heartbroken when they wither. As more come up again, we realize the strength we have to face hard times and the will to find new purposes, to learn that even endings have their mournful beauty to show us the importance of starting again, anew. As such, we continue our path with qualities we might not have known about.

However, some people consider that the end of a romantic relationship is not something to be happy about. Once a connection is broken, the sense of security fades away, leaving place to doubts. Each experience is unique with its emotional baggage and we cannot relive it, no matter how much we want to go back in time and have a second chance to it. Insecurities are accumulated, along with pressure and anxiety, which lead to being doubtful towards the future and resentful towards the past for the pain it has caused.

In conclusion, I believe that beak ups are not a reason to be anguished, but one to be grateful to have been through, because they shape us by giving precious lessons in regards of perceivingthe world, life and onself, in order to help us moving forward on our path to the future as stronger, wiser and better people. 

Author's Note

This is the essay I wrote for my English term paper in my senior year in highschool. The prompt for the subject was this: ''Your good friend broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. While they are furious about it, you say: 'Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened' ''.
I know relationships come in different types, both healthy and toxic. As I was trying to write my essay, I had an epiphany: everything that happens in our lives has a reason. Yes, life has its ups and downs, but in the end, we are like a piece of clay ready to be transformed into a beautiful cup. We are watered, modeled, then but in the oven. It's a painful process, being subjected to so many operations of various complexity, but in the end, the final result is worth it. We change at different times, but we evolve together. No matter what hardships we encounter, all the experiences we have been through led us to the people we are now. We are strong, courageous people, modeled by God to become how He wants us to be: good people. If He knows our struggles, He gives us strength to overcome them.
And that's how I started writing like I had a turbo right wrist, scaring my teacher (because I wrote so many ideas on my draft paper in 5 minutes, then the whole essay in 10 minutes). I got an overall of 98/100. :)
I wanted to share this with you because maybe somewhere, someone needs to hear this. I love you all!

Reviews

[Karmee]

I enjoyed this, Relationships are hard, I believe all of us need to be helpful where we can.
We shouldn't think a one relationship works. We can't be one sided if we have a relationship
with God. God should be number one in our lives. If we have a good relationship with God
we can with others. I believe in kindness, we should help one another when we can.
I am glad you got a good grade on this write. Excellent