Why Refuse Help?

Why do I ask for help and then refuse it?

I ask for help,
Then refuse it,

Over
And over again,

To the point
Where people become
Frustrated with me,

To the point
Where there are
No other options
To help me
Anymore.

Why?
Just why would someone
Refuse help,

Especially if they
Are the one
To ask for it
In the first place?

Reviews

[Clockwork]

This is a really introspective poem that poses a soul-searching question. I admire how you establish the subject of the poem so clearly in your opening couplet. I also like how you only used one word in the third line of the poem. The word "over" in line three is above the word "over" in line four, which really illustrates the painful cycle your speaker experiences.

My humble answer to some of the questions in this poem--While refusing help is harmful in the long run, sometimes we feel it could be more painful to fully reveal the content of our hearts. Sometimes we fear how we will be judged by what is inside, so it's easier to keep it inside. The helper could decide we are broken beyond repair and that thought sometimes holds us back.

You have a courageous poem here.

[Blue Belle]

Thank you so much for your review. I admire your insight to my poem. :)

[knapp darko]

short but telling, the pain is in the words, I look forward to reading more of your work and hope in life you are doing well, keep up with the poems I look forward to reading more

[M.E.Lyle]

Writing is a great way to just get it all out there, and you do it quite well. The mind is a crazy thing.

[Blue Belle]

Thank you.

[Sami Khalil]

It could be pride or seeking own remedy. Bravo..................

[J Johnson III]

Maybe the need for help is recognized, but the response is not wanted? I don't know, but good write either way. How much snow do you have? I'm from Buffalo that's why I ask.

[Blue Belle]

Thanks. We don't have any snow at the moment...it's been random bouts of snow, but it doesn't stay for long. How is everyone in Buffalo doing? I know you guys had like what, 7 feet of snow? That's quite a bit.

[J Johnson III]

For sure. Everyone is doing well it is mostly melted now. Got to love New York lol

[Blogger]

I think that some ask for help since they on the surface realize they need it. But then when someone wants to help, the person then doesnt want it since they dont want to face certain things that are too painful. I have been there.

[Jake Donald Stephens]

I'm kind of like this, except I don't ask for help per se, I just bug people into talking to me. It's hard to find people who really can help, though. But what can you do other than keep trying?

[00000000000000000000000..]

I think were afraid sometimes because we think what others think or who can we trust, it does seem scary at times but if we can give in and allow it may be better , just takes some time.

[Beccy]

This must have been quite difficult to write, but at least asking the question is moving in the right direction. To ask, then accept help is often a very difficult thing to do. It often seems like an admission to some degree, of weakness or helplessness due to the an inability to cope with an illness that is not easily understood by those who have never experienced such things. Even in today's enlightened world there is still a certain stigma attached to such disorders; unlike, for example, a quantifiable physical illness, such as cancer, which will always engender much more sympathy than the myriad of different mental and social disorders that can afflict a person to the most awful degree. This is easier to say than to put in place, but truly, acceptance that one needs help is the key that will unlock the door.

Beccy.