Sitting in the sand with my legs
crossed, I let the beautiful silence wash over me. The beach is surprisingly empty
tonight, but I have no complaints. I close my eyes and breath in, instructions
given in almost every self-help book to help ease my anxiety. I used to tell
myself that I wasn’t anxious, but the tremble in my fingers and my unsteady
heartbeat seemed to tell me otherwise. My therapist said that acknowledging the
problem was the first step. But she didn’t know what that meant to me. To my
family. She didn’t know the arguments that would come to pass and haunt me for
the rest of my life. Words stricken with fear, anger and resentment buried in
their undertones, tearing my lungs out of my chest and leaving me unable to
breath. But she didn’t know, so that’s okay.
I breath out slowly through my
mouth, unknowingly twisting my lips in a way that would produce the loudest
whistle. I never could whistle as a child, and the sound terrified me in the
most innocent way, causing me to stop and check my surroundings. The laughter
that bubbled through my chest was a foreign sound. I was known to chuckle
sometimes, but this laughter caused my chest to tighten, mimicking the horrific
squawk of a barn owl, only the owl sounded better. The knot in my chest grows
wider, and I can feel the formation of tears making their unwanted appearance.
My laughter turning into sobs, turning into blood curling screams, turning into
silence once again. The ability to feel my emotions without being ridiculed is
something I’d never dreamed of. It’s the most empowering sensation that I’ve
discovered along my journey. If I have any regrets at all, it’s that I didn’t
run away sooner.