Dating Someone Who Loves You More: Why It's A Good Thing

I read an article on Thought Catalog recently that was entitled "Date Someone Who Loves You More". I thought the title was interesting, so I figured I'd read it and see why the author thought that way. 

After reading the article, I realized I was in a relationship with a person who loves me more. My boyfriend, who is the most loving, caring, and genuine man I've ever met, loves me more. At first, this realization made me feel like a terrible person. However, it is not that I do not love him, I do. He simply loves me more. And for that I am so appreciative. 

My boyfriend loves me for all that I am. He loves me for exactly who I am. Sure, he may want to change some of my behaviors and tendencies, but they aren't make-it-or-break-it points in our relationship. My boyfriend tells me he loves me every single day. My boyfriend sends me good morning messages at 3am. These messages are not a simple "good morning beautiful", they are paragraphs of how he misses me when I'm not sleeping next to him and how beautiful he thinks I am and how he hopes I have been sleeping well. 

In all honesty, I have never been in a relationship where my boyfriend has been so sweet and caring. My previous boyfriends couldn't have cared less about being sweet or kind. My current boyfriend stops by my school to drop off lunch, or drives out of his way after work to bring me dinner. Sometimes he picks me up and tells me we are going out for ice cream or to a movie without having told me ahead of time. He's spontaneous, adventurous, a free spirit. 

At times he makes my heart melt into a puddle of mush, other times he annoys the hell out of me. Sometimes I look at him and think "this man is everything I've ever wanted", and other times I look at him and think "do I really love him?" In the Thought Catalog article, the author says stay with the one who loves you more even if you feel the passion dying. Even if your heart doesn't do backflips anymore. You might ask why, but I understood her reasoning. 

The one who loves you more will always be there for you, who will love you unconditionally, who will give you stability, who needs you like you need them (even if you don't realize you need them). My boyfriend loves me unconditionally, he provides me stability, we have almost exactly similar life goals and career goals. He has a good sense of humor while I'm more uptight about things. We balance each other out, we make each other better people. 

We live day-by-day, we laugh, we tell each other we love them, we encourage each other, we push each other, we help each other, we take care of each other. And while he loves me more, I have learned that he is the man of my dreams. 

 

Author's Note

Please ignore grammatical errors and punctuation. I wrote this quickly because I needed to express this.

Reviews

[Yari Garcia (Older Prof..]

Aww, very sweet :-) But how does one measure love, anyhow? I'm sure you guys are perfect for each other, with just the right amount of love coming from both sides.