Break ups,
those dreaded topics you’d love to avoid, there’s only so much you can take
when it comes to your friends going on and on about the one who dumped them, am
i right? Break up are one of those hard things in life that are a part of
growing up, a part of emotional strengthening, basically they are a fact of
life, not everybody you date is going to be the one. So how can you get through
a messy break up? How can you help your friend through one?
These are the
questions my dear friends and you are going to help me find the answers.
I agree 100% with 100% of what Bats in the Belfrey said. BRAVO, BRAVO!! Tying yourself up in a relationship to begin with, prevents you from taking the time in your life to know SELF. Be friends with lots of people so you can be exposed to new experiences, activities, hobbies that you learn about from others. Try them out, see if it's something that you want to become a part of who you are. Notice the expression is-tying yourself DOWN. That tells you alot right there! I've NEVER heard someone say, "I wish I had tied myself down earlier in life"! Heed these words of wisdom, grasshopper!
See it as an opportunity to be free perhaps? See it as a lucky escape even. See it as a chance to do some serious reading without having to worry about how another person might be feeling every second second of the day. Bring on the break up! Hmmm, I'm married so I can't say that! But people do rather get in the way of the most important things in life! Maybe it wld be wise from the outset to be entirely selfish, to give absolutely nothing to another person, ever, to be like a cat, to just be with someone when it suits you and to walk from the room when it does not, perhaps never to return. Otherwise you are in the realm of being tied to or tied down by another demanding human being. This is absolutely out of the question for a writer who knows but the one true love ... their writing.