When dating becomes a torment.

Women are like a yummy dessert, perhaps ice-cream. If you savor it, let the taste and flavor of it flood your senses, let every single taste bud explore every contour of this yummy treat, and basically take your time in enjoying it, you would enjoy it much better than if you gobbled in down in a rush and suffer brain freeze. But what about guys?

Men are exactly the same! Only difference, the stereotype by society is that they hide their emotions and feelings, and only open them to someone they deeply care about. Then again, this openness is not only restricted to guys, as girls would only let someone into the deep dark spaces of their mind only if that someone meant something to them.

Despite being a bombastic person, I find myself stumbling to voice my thoughts or feelings when face-to-face with a person. Reasons behind that, as many would agree, range from nervousness to agitation. I'm nervous in how I would say it and what if I said it in a way that totally damaged the message I was trying to get across? Or what if I said it such that instead of being romantic/cute, it came across as sleazy or downright? The chills! Fear is another reason; we are afraid of what the answer is. Visualize the scene where Harry Potter approaches Cho to ask her out. Boy Who Lived. Awesome tattoo on his forehead. Nerdy glasses. Well, guess what? The answer was no, because someone already asked. Bummer. Don't you hate when that happens? You pluck up all your courage from the fringes of your character, and then, you are blown away with that simple answer. You feel devastated. So we have this scenario where the person you like says no, because while you were trying to get your words in the right order, some other beat you to it. Doesn't that make you feel like a total loser? Rejection is a bit**.

Oh, don't get me started. That was just the tip of the iceberg; there are worse situations where the person you like denies you. The 'But I see you as a friend' accompanied with a hysterical laugh. The 'I'm not interested in dating now', and the nek minnit, you see them locking lips with some very hot dude/chick. Or how about the flat out 'You're disgusting!' or 'You're hideous'? So many winners. There's even the improbable but possible situation where you get the answer 'no' and yet a person with the same name as you gets 'yes'. It's funny and tragic if that happens. Hmm, what else? Oh! Of course, the 'cut and run', where you excuse yourself to the restroom, and are kidnapped by aliens! 'Emergency phone call' about a varying number of reasons. This list is really inexhaustible.

Reviews

[Malister Mikey]

I enjoyed this story, As someone who has been on both sides of this I know how annoying it can be, I enjoyed the comparison to women/men to ice cream. Good work

[Damien Thibodeaux]

Your essay is like conversation, which is good. Your subject is relevant. Pay attention to sentence structure. Keep up the practice and keep writing!

[Bill O. Writes]

This problem of rejection fades as you get older typically. I used to be so nervous even talking to girls. Now I don't see them as someone judging me but rather just talk to them like one of my friends. I have someone now but before that I learned to just be myself and if they like me, they like me. If not, so be it. There also comes a point where there's no such thing as "asking out" anymore and it just becomes hanging out/dating until it fizzles out or evolves naturally into something more without acknowledging it.

Because of this all I never hide my true self anymore. What's meant to happen, will happen.

[Pól]

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