Just a Phase

Just a Phase

A Story by Hannah

Every holiday season, my relatives would ask if I found a boyfriend. I'm sure many families do the same, but I'm from an old-fashioned Christian family. They didn't ask me just out of curiosity. They were judging me. What good was a daughter if she wasn't serving a man? Each time I said I was single, they looked at me with disappointment. But there was more to it than they knew. It wasn't that I was too timid to get a boyfriend, or that I somehow repelled the ones who were interested. I just didn't like boys.
I didn't initially realize it. When I was elementary-school-aged, I didn't think much about it, one way or the other. When I got a little older, and the other kids would talk about the guys/girls they liked, I still couldn't relate. It didn't necessarily bother me, but it did make me wonder when I didn't have any romantic feelings of my own. It wasn't until I was fourteen that I would start to realize why.
The details are a little fuzzy, but the gist of it is that there was an upcoming choir concert. The class was waiting outside the auditorium for the teacher to unlock the doors for rehearsal. I was standing with one of my friends. He had done something to his ankle and had to walk with crutches. We were freshmen at the time. A junior girl--Lauren, I think her name was--walked over to us and asked him what happened to his ankle. While the two talked, I noticed how incredibly pretty she was. After their conversation, she left, and I watched as she walked away, not quite sure what to think.
Fastforward a year, give or take a few months. After Lauren, I continued to - for lack of a better word - notice other girls. Given my upbringing, I was extremely uncomfortable with this side of me. I told myself it was nothing, and I tried to cover it up. I even had a boyfriend, for about two weeks. He was a friend I'd had for as long as I could remember. He was nice enough, but my heart just wasn't in it.
After church one day, I drove to hang out with one my friends. I'll call her Summer. Summer and I spent the whole day together. We got coffee, met up with a few other girls to see a movie, and then went back to her place for the night. Early the next morning, we went out on a hill near her house and watched the sunrise. It would have been terribly romantic, if either of us cared to think that way. But we didn't. At least, not at first. At one point, I looked over at her. The way she looked, completely at ease with the first rays of the sun illuminating her face, her deep gray eyes practically glowing, her long blonde hair framing her face, something welled up inside of me. I had an urge to embrace her.
Again, I ignored it and carried on as I always had. But the same feeling kept coming up whenever I was with Summer, and a select few other girls. The time finally came when I couldn't pretend my attractions didn't exist. But there still was no way I could confess to my family. I accepted it about myself but didn't tell anyone for a year and a half. My senior year, I finally decided to came out to my mother and younger brother. My brother said that was gross. My mother accused me of looking for attention. After a few weeks of me adamantly sticking to my claim, she said I was "going through a phase".
During church, my mother told be to pray for forgiveness, and I think she prayed for me, herself. When the holiday seasons rolled around, she told me not to mention "my problem" to anyone. She didn't want her family seeing what an embarrassment her daughter was. A couple of my poems on this site talk about that.
Almost a year later, she still isn't fond of the idea of having a queer kid. She hasn't looked at me the same way since I told her. But it doesn't matter what other people think. I'm finally happy with myself. I can look in the mirror and be happy with the person looking back. She isn't perfect. She has flaws and bad days. But she keeps going, one day at a time.

© 2017 Hannah


Author's Note

Hannah
A tale from my life. I know it's not particularly well written, but I wanted to put it out there. Hopefully it can help anyone who is going through the same thing.

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First of all Kudos for this courageous write, Hannah. Being true to oneself is the most difficult thing in life but you are very brave. Yes, it does hurt when your own people and family don't understand your feelings and become intolerant of your existence but I think that is the test of life no matter what we have to keep living. I am glad that you are happy with yourself because you are right at your place. Do not bother about people- views change, norms change and society too changes with time. I loved the way you wrote this piece- very honest. It is not sin to live the way you want to live..I can't say much about religion because I don't have much idea about how Christianity treats this matter. I hope people someday understand and realize the fact that sexuality is not a choice, people are born like that.. Thanks for sharing this wonderful and inspiring story of yours :-). Stay strong no matter what. God bless.

Posted 7 Years Ago


5 of 5 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thank you very much, Gorthi. I appreciate your very kind response and support.



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Wow, This is captivating. It drew my attention and kept it. Great work!

Posted 7 Years Ago


1 of 1 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thank you for reading, and thank you for your kind response.
First of all Kudos for this courageous write, Hannah. Being true to oneself is the most difficult thing in life but you are very brave. Yes, it does hurt when your own people and family don't understand your feelings and become intolerant of your existence but I think that is the test of life no matter what we have to keep living. I am glad that you are happy with yourself because you are right at your place. Do not bother about people- views change, norms change and society too changes with time. I loved the way you wrote this piece- very honest. It is not sin to live the way you want to live..I can't say much about religion because I don't have much idea about how Christianity treats this matter. I hope people someday understand and realize the fact that sexuality is not a choice, people are born like that.. Thanks for sharing this wonderful and inspiring story of yours :-). Stay strong no matter what. God bless.

Posted 7 Years Ago


5 of 5 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thank you very much, Gorthi. I appreciate your very kind response and support.
Hannah, I for one applaud you for putting this out there. Be proud of who you are. I feel for you in the sense that your parents don't get it. We are all different, but we should be loved by our family all the same. I only hope that one day your family can fome to terms with your sexuality and tehn you can all move forwards.

We are who we are - nobody should change for anybody.....keep being you.

Mark.

Posted 7 Years Ago


3 of 3 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thanks, Mark. I appreciate your words.
I don't have the best of relationships with much of my family, either, but nothing as fundamental as what you're experiencing. I'm sorry you have to deal with your family not accepting who you are. But it's great that you can accept it. You have a very healthy view of the situation. I hope your life continues to improve, and I wish you luck.

Posted 7 Years Ago


3 of 3 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thank you, Clifford.
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well not so terribly written. and this prompts a long conversation.

Posted 7 Years Ago


3 of 3 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

I suppose it would. Thanks for reading.
Your struggle is very understandable and I congratulate you on your bravery. People judge without really understanding. Everyone is a victim of it. As a Christian, I do find it sad that we would abandon the love of our own children because of their sexuality when God tells us to love even our enemies. I mean, this goes for anything, whether a Muslim parent disowns their child who comes out as a Christian or any other situation. It shouldn't change the way we love or see other people. I can sort of relate to this because I have been judged for my faith (because of stereotypes of course), but it wasn't on a scale of yours when you were judged for your sexuality. Regardless, we should be able to cope and manage these things with maturity. What your mother did was not only degrading but immature (sorry if that is insulting, by the way. I'm sure your mother is a great woman. I don't mean to place judgment on her) because she never tried to understand you. Hopefully, your family can build a better relationship with you; you are worthy of the happiness. Thanks for sharing!

Posted 7 Years Ago


4 of 4 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

I don't blame any of my family members for how they acted. I certainly wish they were more accepting.. read more
Sapientiam

7 Years Ago

That's certainly true. There's always a reason for these things, whether good or bad, and it's neces.. read more
Hannah,
Your story is courageous and well written. I am sure many people have suffered through stressful times in dealing with family and friends. Hopefully your parents will accept you for who you are and have a healthy relationship with you.
God loves you and cares deeply for you, always remember that.
Many Blessings,
Richie b.

Posted 7 Years Ago


4 of 4 people found this review constructive.

Hannah

7 Years Ago

Thank you very much, richie. I appreciate your caring words. Only time will tell what happens next.
They should of been by your side, but at least you are happy with yourself. I am bisexual and it was tough growing up with all of the bad remarks. I was glad to have my family by my side. I am also happy with myself. I am glad to hear your story.

Posted 7 Years Ago


3 of 3 people found this review constructive.

Rebel

7 Years Ago

Yeah, they should, but I have met caring Christians and judgmental ones. My grandfather is a judgmen.. read more
Writing Angel

7 Years Ago

good. I'm glad you have met some of the good ones haha
Rebel

7 Years Ago

I am glad that I did, too.
I hate it when people judge. "Christians" seem to be really good at that. The important though is that you are happy with who you are.

Posted 7 Years Ago


4 of 5 people found this review constructive.

Wølfy

7 Years Ago

Just realized this guy is not even on Hannah's friend list so that means he just wanted to comment o.. read more
Sapientiam

7 Years Ago

O_o...

Uh, BABAJAGA, there's no need to enforce Christianity on others. People have t.. read more
Rebel

7 Years Ago

I agree with you.
complete trash compared to what i wrote go see a psychologist about your issues, every gay should

Posted 7 Years Ago


1 of 5 people found this review constructive.

BABAJAGA

7 Years Ago

Sorry if i hurt any of you in any way, thank you so much for being polite
BABAJAGA

7 Years Ago

You all wont believe what just happened, so i went to eat a spoon of peanut butter but then I though.. read more
Rebel

7 Years Ago

Your welcome. Just please think before you type.

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