I have endeavored to leave off names from this as this is a rather popular, generally viewed as nice user. I do not agree with their behavior but also have no interest in putting them on blast. If I have slipped up and it shows somewhere who this might be, please let me know so I can edit it. If you know, please keep it to yourself in the public spaces. Otherwise, enjoy a tale that is probably all too common around here.
For clarity "other user" is the first block and my responses follow.
Yes. A common tale. I am happy to see you take the higher road.
I am sorry you were blocked and I do not know from the exchange the identity of the person but it does seem like there was an unreasonable expectation put on you and then an attempt at a guilt trip. Your handling of this was very mature in the face of the flippant responses. I have had similar experience. People need to understand that these poetry sites are not our entire lives, at least for many of us. I would love to have time to spend all day and night exchanging reviews, thoughts and discussion. I work full time, have 3 children; husband, aging and ailing parents, and I go to part time school at night. I give what I can when I can. My world does not revolve around the people here as much as I do respect and admire so many of them.
I just noticed in the comments that people have been using pronouns associated with females. Can we please steer away from that to respect said person's anonymousity. I would like to remind people that it's not always a woman or someone who identifies as female, they could be non-binary, gender-fluid, male, or any other gender. I would like to believe that people on this site will not immediately assume that just because someone was offended, or a little rude, assertive, or sure of themself that they are female.
from now on let us refer to said person in they/them pronouns
Posted 2 Months Ago
2 Months Ago
To be a little fair to some of these people, I think it’s because they know who or suspect who it .. read moreTo be a little fair to some of these people, I think it’s because they know who or suspect who it might be but you are right. Said suspicion has neither been confirmed or denied however, I hope at least. Well except for the one troll who just couldn’t help himself but unfortunately he’s becoming known for inappropriate behavior. To further respect anonymity we should try to be as gender neutral as possible.
You do know that's divya right? She's at least 12 different "popular accounts" here. I think it's funny you guys not only buy her bullshit without question... but you'll even support the most vile, insidious and pernicious attacks on a human being... just because. She's pop. It's not a secret what she does, is and has been doing. FOR YEARS
It's actually not her. I don't know how many other accounts anyone else around here has, it's not ge.. read moreIt's actually not her. I don't know how many other accounts anyone else around here has, it's not generally something I keep up with but I do know for a fact this was not her. Regardless, I also asked that people refrain from naming names.
4 Months Ago
Rube. Enjoy the grift genius.
4 Months Ago
Sorry, you feel that way. You are always welcome not to come on my pages if they so offend you
I didn't see anything negative or confrontational about this exchange. You both seem level headed and just trying to understand each other. I wonder why they blocked you. I hope you too work things out. It sounds like the other person was just trying to make a connection with you. I just didn't see anything cynical here, but that's just my opinion.
Posted 5 Months Ago
1 of 2 people found this review constructive.
5 Months Ago
Oh I can answer that because for me it certainly didn't feel very calm and level headed. It definite.. read moreOh I can answer that because for me it certainly didn't feel very calm and level headed. It definitely came off as very confrontational, if in a passive aggressive way. For some context because I do not expect you to go read every single comment or know the details of a situation in which I have given very little information.
This is a very popular, well reviewed user. They don't need my review and it certainly doesn't mean anything to them. But they had decided that reviews were some kind of symbol between users and that it was incredible disrespect for me not to give one back. The funny thing is, I had previously looked into their writing but it just wasn't for me so I had decided to say nothing instead of lie or be rude. What they were taking as an insult was really just differing tastes. I tried explaining, and they wouldn't accept it (without stating that I didn't like their stuff, I had multiple other reasons and I gave them those).
This was actually part of a rather long term of harassment that ended in them blocking me when they found they could not essentially bully me into doing what they wanted. I kind of hate it because like I said, they're pretty popular around here and I just am not a fan of burning bridges. I am not, however, willing to let other people tell me how I should or should not be.
5 Months Ago
I understand what your saying. I guess that's why we should respect people's boundaries. We don't al.. read moreI understand what your saying. I guess that's why we should respect people's boundaries. We don't all react to things the same way. I totally understand where you're coming from.
Personally I think getting angry at someone, venting sometimes without enough reason, and then immediately blocking them is actually cowardly. Shouldn't people talk, listen and explain rather than assume things and explode? It's hurtful and sad.
However we're all here to write and get better and not just have our egos stroked right?
From my almost 14 years on this website, I have a fair guess of who the blocker and am quite amused. Will not take names. Well Green, I'm sorry about it but if I can add my two cents then here it is - You’re not missing anything. I'd just advise you to write, post, read, review and enjoy your time here. After all, we love writing and we life only once. Let's just get on with it and have a blast! Thank you for this eye opening post.
Yes. A common tale. I am happy to see you take the higher road.
I am sorry you were blocked and I do not know from the exchange the identity of the person but it does seem like there was an unreasonable expectation put on you and then an attempt at a guilt trip. Your handling of this was very mature in the face of the flippant responses. I have had similar experience. People need to understand that these poetry sites are not our entire lives, at least for many of us. I would love to have time to spend all day and night exchanging reviews, thoughts and discussion. I work full time, have 3 children; husband, aging and ailing parents, and I go to part time school at night. I give what I can when I can. My world does not revolve around the people here as much as I do respect and admire so many of them.
I'm living in the good ol' south of the US of A. Professionally, I'm an engineer and I guess that means I'm supposed to know things. I don't always. I write because I can, and because I can write word.. more..