How Very Touching

How Very Touching

A Poem by Gray Witch
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Some people don't understand

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I don’t want to be touched.

 

People look at me funny when I shy away

from those relatives with their arms outstretched

or acquaintances that lean in to peck my cheek.

 

My body language screams,

“Stay away.”

“Leave me be”.

“Keep your body to yourself.”

 

Smile if you wish.

I will return a smile, I’m not a curmudgeon

but don’t invade my personal space.

If you do, my soul will curl up in a ball

roll under the couch, chair, table or retreat out the nearest door.

 

Can’t you feel it?

I can’t change it.

© 2012 Gray Witch


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I can relate ! though I I do hug...I hate my photo taken or shown..I freeze ..and never mind video oy I cringe because it feels invasive.. great write..we all have something ( :

Posted 11 Years Ago


Gray Witch

11 Years Ago

Yes, we certainly do "all have something"...Oh I know the reason I am like I am ... I wish it was di.. read more
Renée

11 Years Ago

Amen
I used to be that way, so can relate. Neither of my parents gave hugs, nor did their relatives. Going further, they didn't express affections at all. (Dad did--just a little) Mom expressed anger, and that was her only emotion. Not good. Hugs are fine with me now, but they used to freak me out.

Posted 11 Years Ago


Gray Witch

11 Years Ago

I would dearly like to be different because i am always around people who do hug and show affection .. read more
Ha! I'm the opposite in many ways. It's like no one wants to get close to me, so I feel sad and rejected because of my lack of contact with others in general, and I don't know if anyone understands that. But alas, I can feel your point of view in this piece.

Posted 11 Years Ago


I was brought up in two different worlds of touch. My maternal grandparents were expressive with sharing occasional hugs and kisses. My paternal grandparents were the exact opposite: no touching. I cannot remember my mother hugging or kissing me; not even a verbal 'I love you.' My father, actually stepfather, never touched me except with a belt or boot. So I grew up with confusion with regards to touching; both physical and verbal.

It wasn't until I had a girlfriend in high school that I became comfortable with holding hands, hugs and kissing. Obviously there was a lot of hormonal drive involved there. But we never were naked nor did we have sex. And I'm all right with that. Oh, not that it wasn't desired.

Then I met my wife, Donna, and touching became an okay thing. We were very affectionate with our children when they were growing up. There were normal hugs and kisses until puberty. After that just those hugs on special occasions. Now that they are grown, there are still hugs at special times. We tell our children and grandchildren that they are loved.We hug our grandchildren: 11, 13 and15 years of age. I believe this is normal.

Now when it comes to distant relatives, friends, etc. it's pretty much hands off. I hugged my mother-in-law when my father-in-law died recently. That was a first. I've hugged my mother once or twice over the last few years; at a funeral and occasions like that.

My most difficult touching is with other men. I say 'Stay away.' 'Leave me be.' 'Keep your body to yourself.' Then 2 years ago I met my biological father's eldest brother, Uncle Chet. He's 90 years old. He gave me a hug and he held my hand in a handshake too long for my comfort level. I survived. It was sincere. I never met my father. Over the last 2 years I have hugged him and it's not so bad.

Then I became reaquainted with a friend from school. He's a hugger. I'm totally uncomfortable with it. He's a Christian and always says, 'I love you brother.' OMG. I have to either come to grips with it or not see him again.

Well what I saying is - I relate to your touching issue. And I know why. Childhood molestation.

Thanks for sharing your poem. It's relevent, profound, honest and well written. Also, it has given me a desire to determine if I can overcome this revulsion. Why should I live the rest of my life like this. We'll see.

Posted 11 Years Ago


I like the title, definitely throws the reader off. I do get how people fail to read body language regardless of how well intentioned they may be. I struggle with this season too, though for different reasons that I am not yet ready to get into... Paradoxically I find this poem inspiring. It may encourage me to take a small step or two. Thank you Leslie.

Posted 11 Years Ago


Gray Witch

11 Years Ago

Thanks again for reading and commenting on what I write...It is both helpful and, for me, insightful.. read more
we all have certain issues we must deal with the best we can whatever works best for ourselves like the saying goes if it's not broke don't fix it. but if you want to fix it it's up to you, but nobody's perfect

Posted 11 Years Ago


You can change it... Yet until you do, you cannot simply choose to feel different. Do you want to change it? Do you need to change it? It seems a common thread that we either condemn a person for their behavior or just accommodate it in others or ourselves. No need to change very behavior just because it opposes customary standards either.
A telling write that should sensitize us to others perspective.

Posted 11 Years Ago


 David Scott

11 Years Ago

Please don't think I assume to understand. No judgement, only sympathy. The emotions and mental stat.. read more
Gray Witch

11 Years Ago

Again thank you....It is only so very recently that I began to play connect the dots with my life an.. read more
 David Scott

11 Years Ago

Yes dear... The "bones" keep washing up in the rain...
I will hold you in my heart dear Gray... read more
We all have our own boundaries - and our own reasons for those boundaries - don't we?

Posted 11 Years Ago


Gray Witch

11 Years Ago

Yes we do.... and on paper and in person you would never know this is a problem for me....but someti.. read more
I know how you feel, I wish that only the people who really feel it were allowed to kiss/hug me. I love your idea about your soul hiding from it.

Posted 11 Years Ago


The only exceptions are, of course, my children and grand children - those I love....

I have a feeling that part of it is innate, since two of my grand kids and my eldest son have similar reactions to being grabbed and hugged by others... My reaction is partly as the result of life experiences though and of that I am quite aware...

Thank you for the reviews and taking the time to read my work in all it's differing styles...

Posted 11 Years Ago



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