Forgive to forget

It is better to forget than to forgive, 

but if I forget I won't be able to forgive,
and if I forgive, I won't forget

You're just like me

we can forgive and forget,
but forget and forgive
is not to forgive and forget as we have learned

For if I forget to forgive 

I'm no better than if I just forget and won't forgive
And doesn't forgiveness lose its meaning then?
If we forget how to forgive

If we don't forgive the forgotten,

isn't it better to just forget

and forgive?

Author's Note

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Reviews

[Mr Question]

I had never really considered the question until reading this. After thinking about it for a while I'm not sure I forgive or forget. I believe I just set things in the back and learn and move on. Things that may need forgiving are toe stubbers that must be avoided in the future for me. I'm not sure that's good or bad either.

[Green]

I've always personally found the forget a little misplaced in that saying. As you stated, it's not really forgiving if you forget what it is you're forgiving someone for or if you simply forget to forgive them. There may not be any hard feelings anymore, but there hasn't been true forgiveness. There have been times in my life where I had to wake up every morning an consciously choose to continue forgiving someone. Eventually, it got to the point where I didn't have to think about it that much anymore and in a way that's probably forgetting, but I never truly get to the point of not really remembering. Of course, maybe I've just been misunderstanding the whole time and you're just supposed to forget your strong feelings, that would make a lot more sense to me.
Editing to add: the formatting just popped up on this for me, guess my page was loading slow. I really like it. It's not crazy and over the top, but it's different.

[Grace Wolff]

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it. I have been thinking about the concept of forgiving and forgetting because it is something we do in everyday life, all the time. And as you stated, it never goes away. We can either forgive, but to forget is harder and it happens rarely when something hurts us deeply.