In the blink of an eye

Will be 3 years in August since Debs passed away.

In the blink of an eye three years have passed.
Life for those of us left behind to mourn your passing
moves on, albeit with your memory ever present
and the pain of missing you dulled but not gone.
When we meet, we, the mourners cum celebrants,
toast you, will always do so until we too are gone
to become ghosts and memories remembered by clinking glasses
and laughter filled stories.
Your shoes, far to big to be filled by another,
are now worn by his "companion" your polar opposite,
an uninvited imposter who makes little or no effort to integrate
thus alienating herself and at the same time,
bit by bit, isolating him, removing him from "the friend group" which saddens,
but not as much as him allowing this to happen.
They, the ladies in the know, say he is lonely,
cannot be on his own, needs company,
but is what we perceive as bad company better than loneliness,
I guess only he can answer that unasked question but never will
as her "suitability"only ever discussed in their absence.

We miss you, your smile, personality, infectious sense of fun,
the way you filled a room, regaled all with drink sodden tales.
We miss you greatly and perhaps if we continue to compare,
even if subconsciously, no other will ever be allowed in.

Reviews

[Poetic Beauty]

We all have those exceptional people that we encounter in life and they can not be replaced in our hearts once the person has departed this earth. We do however have room to allows others in and while it may not be the exceptional and unforgettable; they may enhance our lives but one never knows if we don’t try.

[Gee]

Thanks for dropping in PB

[Poetic Beauty]

You are welcome

[Philip Gaber]

Mmmm. "an uninvited imposter who makes little or no effort to integrate
thus alienating herself and at the same time,"
that is powerful.

[Ken Simm.]

I worried at the time when my mother who was never there and my father who was handy with his fists both died. I worried that I did not cry. Yet when all my animals have gone you could not shut me up. So I do understand the feelings so wonderfully expressed here. My sorrows for your loss. It does not get easier it just gets time.
The she I write constantly about will always be here though.

[Gee]

Dogs are my preferred companions, we could all learn lessons from them and their unwavering loyalty.
Like you I too had an iffy upbringing coming from a twice broken home, being shunted to kids homes and foster homes(when mum wasn't well or needed respite from 7 feral kids) I do believe it has enabled me to be a better father though as no role model better than a bad one plus I have been everything I would have wanted from a dad :))
Thanks Ken, appreciate you always taking time to.read and comment

[Ken Simm.]

Just a quick word of support dear friend.

[Gee]

Thank you Ken. Was dragged up in an environment where folk who had to much to say were unceremoniously put in their place :))

[Relic]

My father died two years ago and it's gone by in a flash. I like your take on this gee. You have my condolences.

[Gee]

I rememberyour father passing and yes that time has whizzed by. Hope the pain glad eased.
Thanks for dropping in, you and your words are most appreciated

[Gee]

Glad....has

[Kelly Scheppers]

I lost a very dear, very close friend of mine exactly five years ago this spring, and it still feels like yesterday that his young life was cut short by a stroke. I'm at such a loss, still, trying to deal with the fact that he's truly gone. Although we can never forget someone we used to love, we desperately search for a way of living with the void their absence imparts in the every day existence of our life. Bless you, Gordon, for sharing such a poignant, emotive piece. I hope Deb's light will continue to shine!

[Gee]

Morning, so sorry for your loss.
Hope you are well after your recent illness.
Thank you for taking time to drop in

[Stella Armour]

Maybe, although no one else could ever fill her shoes or replace the essence of her to loosen the ties just slightly might ease the pain.
Nothing can take away the memories you have, nothing can touch your soul the way hers did but would she want the door closed on her leaving to your future?
A sensitive write my friend, what anyone else thinks is irrelevant to your love of her.

[Gee]

Thank you for your wise words Stella, very much appreciated