A Widows Request

So many find it so hard to be around the newly bereaved.

Please come visit, often, as before...
bring no gifts, flowers, only friendship.
Bring not trepidation or awkwardness,
as it is circumstance and not I that have changed.
Bring me not your sadness and heavy heart,
as these at present I own by right.
Instead bring memories,
memories of good times spent.
Speak his name but without hesitation or fear,
as that will never die unless allowed.
Reminisce with stories, laughter, smiles,
and this will be my comfort.
And if you do this he will live on,
in our hearts and minds.
Please come visit, and often...

Reviews

[Seriana]

I love that you've put to words and brought to light a tender topic that is so often neglected. Loss of any kind is hard for the person going through it, but when loved ones and others shy away from your true needs to express the good things about the loss, it's much harder to find the will to push through again to the happy side. This touched me. Thank you for your lovely words.

[Gee]

Hi, you did well( or not) to find this piece :)
Half you enjoyed.
Thank You

[Gee]

Glad you enjoyed...

[Bluebird]

Love the sentiment that is so richly referenced in this poem

[Gee]

Thank you..

[kentuck14]

Gee,
What you write here is so true. Most of the time we feel that we must say some words to erase all the sorrow and pain of someone's loss. The grieving just want to know you are there. Good poem, sir.
Tom

[Gee]

Thank you Tom

[John Alexander McFadyen]

Gee you have captured the essence of the bereaved in this. Many people back off are too confused and paralysed by feelings of fear and being inept top provide support. Love the way you use the widows voice and plea as it tugs the heartstrings.

[Gee]

Cheers John..

[Island Hippy]

Honest wholesome words laid bare - ‘as it is circumstance and not I that have changed’ that is such a powerful line, so full of grace, humility even. Really moving poetry. Many mahalo.

[Gee]

Thank you.
Hope you and the family are well

[Sawdust]

i seriously am in love with it

[Gee]

Thank you kindly

[Sawdust]

do you know what is best about your poem,
positivity

[Gee]

Hmmmm, thanks

[Cherrie]

We forget that the need of friendship is important

[Gee]

Friendship and a return to normality.
Thank you

[Moomin]

Such simple needs expressed in so few words. You speak for many who labour under grief and you give them a powerful voice.

Comfort is a true gift when it is sincere and tangible. What can we truly offer as a comfort for loss? There is only one ultimate comfort which soothes all pain, that of the promise of the physical resurrection (Anastasis). If all people knew of, and shared this wonderful Biblical hope with those who mourn, then there would be true comfort.

Beautifully written!

I wish you peace... and comfort.

[Gee]

Thank you, appreciate you reading and commenting.

[Donna]

That is beautiful and very true! Some people would rather stay away because they don't know what to say. You said it perfectly!

[Gee]

Thank you Donna