What love is to meA Story by ThisIsElle_huhWHAT LOVE IS TO ME To be a girl in love, well it has to be said that when you
fall in love, it feels like nothing you’ve ever felt. All those movies and
books with their romantic endings/ romantic entities, you think why that is
projected like that; is it like that, does it appear like that?, all that lovey
dovey cliché nonsense. You may be young, old or in-between and you may think you
are in love but what is love, love is different to everyone. That special bond, the little things that happen that put a
smile on your face and the many years of knowing. What is speculated these days
is the time when one can fall in love; the arguments, heated discussions and
blabbered nonsense about no-one can be in love without knowing the person for
at least a year. To me, it is completely untrue; I believe in love, I believe
that love can happen anytime and anywhere. Love is love. Anyone can love. ANYONE, Men can love women,
men can love other men, women can love men and women can love other women. I do
not see why love is verbally abused because of people’s opinions. Love is a
carefree gift given to humanity to experience and enjoy. A lot of people
believe in true love and I’m a sucker for true love myself. Talking about me though, it’s a different story and a
strange endearing one of that. Experiencing love for the first time was
intense, crazy and made me completely and utterly speechless. Now before I go
on I must say that for me, it is extremely hard for anyone to pass or break my
walls down and no one has been able to get past them. I have had past
relationships, they were nice but I have never felt like I have put myself into
the relationship due to these invisible barriers. In my life I have made a few mistakes and I do not regret
them at all. Even if they have really bad endings and outcomes whatever
happened, happened. It is not the outcome, it is the experience and I believe
that is the start on a journey in finding what love about a person. Brilliant
advice; write down what you like in a guy, their personality, their look etc.
and fold it up and put it under your pillow or in your bedside drawer. Now this
example is lead to believe that, writing down something on a piece of paper
makes a person feel like it is now part of the universe since it is out of your
head and on something materialised. This advice was given to me because I did
not know what to do and I sought help where ever I could find it. Finding help and advice when I am a girl in love is very
hard. Friends, we are like a family so when we tell one person something then
tell another person the exact same and there’s rumours and assumptions rolling
about and they get back to me, I do not know what to do or believe. I pick my
friends at best and chose the ones I will tell, carefully. If people ask then I shall think of what to
tell them, if I want to or not and hope for the best I have told the right
person. To be honest I really do care about what goes around but on the other
hand I really don’t. If people find out then that is fine they can think what
they want and go on with their life, like I will mine. If people laugh at the
fact I have fallen for a person I have only known for short amount of time then
I cannot wait for when it’s their time. Seems harsh I know but I really would
not laugh, I would congratulate them and smile, having the upper hand wherever
I go. Knowing a person for a short amount of time and falling in
love with them is not a crime. Time has a speciality to it for example; for a
person who is in a hurry, time seems to go faster and when a person is taking
it easy, time seems to take its time. So when a person, like me, falls in love
with someone in a short period of time which I don’t think it is and time seems
slow. Well that means I wanted it to be slow, I wanted to enjoy what I am
feeling and I do not care what anyone thinks. I have never been the one to initiate a relationship because
I have never had the feeling of wanting to other than accepting someone’s
proposal. Now, there is this guy and it is strange. I have never felt this way
and I want to initiate a relationship. The thing is, is that I am completely
different to him and I know I should not degrade myself when it comes to things
like this. He is beyond the person I would have never thought to pick and it is
driving me crazy. Why has this happened, I have no idea but yes my story is one
of first that has ever happened to me. When I think I have feelings for someone and I have not
realised it, it tends to hit me hard but then to think about this so called
person has managed to sneakily break through my walls without me knowing.
Finding out that happened was a shocker. I mean it is not impossible but it is
me, I am talking about. This guy has managed to become my friend and my lover
and yet I still have no idea what to do as it is all new to me. When I first met him, I did not technically becomes friends
straight away as his appearance struck me a little and I then thought maybe I
should just lightly tiptoe around him. After a while and having many
conversations with him, I found out that he was indeed not the person I thought
he would be and I felt guilty for having the wrong impression. I did tell him this
and he just brushed it off and smiled, explaining that he could come off a bit
intimidating and I respected him for that, for opening up to me. As the days went by, the conversations got longer, the
things in common grew stronger and we became friends who just mucked about,
laughing. It went on from there that time slowed down, making this short time
seem like it was going on forever and I am quite glad it worked like that. I
knew I had an attraction to him but I also knew that I was me and he was him and
there is a slim chance anything would happen. So I told myself, if anything did
happen then I was fine with that but then I thought, well maybe I would not
because I would not want to ruin a great friendship and I should best leave
things be. Trust my judgement. In the complete opposite direction as it
usually does. This guy, whom I have had an infatuation for, started smiling a
lot more towards me and flirtatious moments were invoked, to be honest, I
literally thought I was just seeing things but then we spent a night together
and everything changed. Those couple of days I tried to think straight but yet
I could not. I sought out help and found out that indeed I had more feelings
for him than I thought I had. Struggling with this newfound information, I decide
best that I would concentrate of the important tasks at hand and hopefully this
infatuation would cease to be. A week later, these feelings are still there in front of me,
taunting me , knowing the full fact that this is no ordinary infatuation so I
just start to process it as it is. Everything between then and now had gone on
as normal, friendly chatter and joking sessions until a night where I was
needed and the first night was repeated. There was more feeling and more
intimacy than I expected as before this night there was a lot of flirtation and
so I just went with it. Knowing I was letting myself into this process of building
up more emotions and attachment to this one guy. Knowing the fact if he finds
someone else, that it will hurt me and my barriers will go straight back up
again. As they did exactly the same as last time and I completely shut off. I
got too involved in this matter and backing out is harder than I thought. Yet it has been 2 weeks but yet it feels like a month. I
have told the closest ones to me and who asked about rumours and assumptions. I
mean it was hard hiding the fact me and him were involved and I do not really
know what his thoughts are on this, I should really do my best and ask him. I
think the reason I am prolonging this well needed conversation is because I do
not want to hear what I do not want to hear. It is crazy I know but I know if
it does not mean anything then I might just die a little and there is the fact
that I might just want what he wants. I will never know until I find out so until then I shall be
the same old me and carry on. On that note, I have decided that being in love
has its conflict so it is a great use for future references. Knowing that I have decided to share this information, I
know now that every time I think about my situation it feels a little bit
unreal. Again on the other hand it also feels so right I cannot help but think
what would happen if I did tell him? All those little things that make my heart
go a little bit faster and those little things that make me smile like an idiot
when I am anywhere, near or far. See I do not know if it is love or not because
I for one have never felt like this before and I like it. There will times where I will be like ‘what the hell am I
doing?! What the hell am I thinking?’ Others that I know will question me on my
feelings as well and I really do not know how to answer them, as I cannot do
that for myself. It is really strange when I think about me and him together as
a couple and not just lovers. Completely opposite but completely right, that’s
what I think anyway, god shoot me down for dragging on and on. I love the fact
I can be myself around him, making jokes and little conversations here and
there. Muck about and be serious at points. Love is a strange thing to me, I do believe in it
but…strange. I am only young as well but then again past the teenage years, it
seems more complicated or maybe that is just me. I have never sought out for
love and this whole thing about if you stop looking and it will find you, is a
bit to corny. For me when something like this happens, I tend to ignore it
because not all of the feelings over the past have been true and ceased. Ask me
how I came to liking this guy and I will shrug my shoulders, completely and
always speechless when trying to explain this nonsense. I know it is probably not nonsense and it could have a
chance but thinking about it, there is not a lot I can do about distance when
it pops up. I know I could but not for a long while yet and I do not want to hurt
anyone especially not a guy as special as him.
His striking eyes that hold visions of memories that have passed. Perfect
sense of humour always has had a way to make me laugh and a smile that frames
his face. His modest yet caring personality always keeping me interested as his
mind conjures up new subjects to talk about. Like any guy, he has his flaws. Tiny bit over confident with
slight cocky side but these are faded into microscopic nothings when his
personality and mind are in action. I do not reflect on his flaws for they make
him for who he is. Know thinking about it, rumours and assumptions will stick
around, they will be in the air and yeah maybe they will fade but not
completely. I feel distressed about my past and the things I have just put past
me. I do not want people to think of me in a bad way and yes maybe they will
think, if I did not want them to think of me like that then why act like it. I
am me, myself and I have no bother with rumours and assumptions as long as
nobody is getting hurt. I am fine with building up barriers and walls. Ignoring
rude comments and Chinese whispers. I have been through it before and I can do
it again. From my experience, I am strong and there have been situations where
I have been able to contain my thoughts and feelings until necessary. What can I do? Nothing, people have free will to think, act
and believe in whatever they want. I cannot for one stop this; all I need is
good friends, advice and my family. If they think I am in wrong when it comes
to my feelings towards this guy then that is their opinion and I am open to
listen. If this is what love is doing to me, making me cowardly choose my
options or hiding behind the transparent brick wall which I have created then
so be it. I want to live my life not in fear of what is to come of
next and hopefully I shall get over everything that opposes me. Threats, rude
comments, Chinese whispers and everything else in between can be an outline of
something I do not have to listen to and I do not mind the conflict. I was born
into conflict and born for conflict. I am stubborn and will always voice my
opinion whether it is right or not. Love makes you do crazy things, think insane nonsense and
make you believe that anything can happen. I do truly believe in all of this, never
mind what anybody else says and I will stick up for love of any kind. Love is
magical and should be enveloped with open arms. Never to be afraid, of your
past, the present and your future whatever will happen. Give me love over hate
any day because love itself, certainly does make the world go round. Fabulous
cliché nonsense. © 2013 ThisIsElle_huhAuthor's Note
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