Unwed, Pregnant and Abandoned!

Every activity exacts its own price and that includes sexuality.

By Stanley Collymore

 

Alright, so I’m pregnant! And while I freely admit that

my condition is no more your fault than it is my

own the stark reality all the same is that we’re both

personally responsible for what has happened and there’s

no getting away from that. And rather than you turn

your back on me as you’ve clearly done leaving

me to face this problem, which is of both

our doing, all on my own while

signalling that it’s all my fault, the least you

could have done was to talk the matter

over with me and help us both to

reach a satisfactory compromise of

how best to proceed from where

we currently are, doing so

not just for both our

sakes but that of

our unborn

baby as

well.

 

Look! I’m not asking you to marry me or anything

like that, as the last thing I want to do is tie you

down in any way, since I know all too well

that you’re neither ready for nor willing,

come to that, to take on the responsibility

of matrimony, bearing in mind that

ours wasn’t what one would call

a serious relationship; but

notwithstanding that

I’m pregnant and

you are my

baby’s

dad.

 

Having an abortion is for me out of the question as I

couldn’t live with myself if I went through with

it, and that’s a decision that has nothing to

do with moral scruples as I’m not

particularly religious; it’s simply that killing my

own flesh and blood revolts me! So one way

or another I will have and keep this child.

And while it’s a given that you and I

will henceforth live separate and

independent lives from each

other there’s nevertheless one

discernible and inescapable fact

that you can’t run away or

hide from, regardless

of how much you

might try to.

 

And it’s this: that you’re a dad now; and whether or

not you choose to play a meaningful role or no

part at all in our child’s life, and that’s a

decision which you must conscionably or

otherwise make on your own, our two lives have

irrevocably been changed and can never again

be the same. For we’re parents now with

very serious responsibilities not just to

ourselves but also and quite significantly too

to a child who though we both recklessly

created it, all the same deserves the

best we can jointly offer it as it

didn’t ask to be here. And

that outcome, heedless and

immature as it was, is

entirely our doing;

let’s not forget!

 

© Stanley V. Collymore

27 November 2013.

 

 

Commentary:

A recently published report that surfaced in November 2013 states that the British per se and their womenfolk in particular are now less uptight sexually than at any time previously in their past history. That’s news to me, since from personal experience I know differently; and don’t ask me to provide proof of that, even though I can, as it’s none of your bloody business!

 

For in reality those whom this report is commending for their purported sexual liberation are actually seasoned sexual practitioners who’ve now opted after generations of deception and pretence, and of which they’ve been crucially a part, to come out of the closet of what was invariably clandestine and unbridled lascivious existences.

 

A step in the right direction this belated openness of theirs no doubt and something to be fulsomely applauded I’m sure. But while some and perhaps even a majority of you are overly concentrating on this one aspect of contemporary British sexuality let’s not forget in your over-enthusiasm and backslapping the other more sobering and not insignificant one of multiple unplanned pregnancies with their attendant contribution to the increasing social dysfunctionality now prevalent within British society.