I’m not your female eunuch!

Marriage is much more than vaingloriously getting hitched!

By Stanley Collymore

 

You say that you love me and want to marry me, yet

knowing how I feel about having children of my

own you also state that you don’t want us

to have any of our own; and while I

accept your right, for whatever

reasons you have, which you’ve never properly or fully

explained to me, not to be a biological father, why

should I gratuitously at your command subvert

my own inalienable right and profound

desire to have my own children,

much less freely enter what’s essentially an

emotional, for I’m undeniably very

much in love with you, as well

as a binding marital contract with someone

who is quite prepared to so cavalierly,

and yes selfishly, negate my future

life that means so much to me

in the conceited way that

you’re attempting to?

 

Telling me that we could adopt knowing full well I’m

of child-bearing age and will continue to be so for

several years to come isn’t just insulting to me

but clearly is no satisfactory answer to the

needless problem you’ve saddled me

with ; for although I love you and

wanted very much to spend the rest of

my life with you, marrying you at

any cost and forced to raise

someone else’s children

rather than my own

isn’t my idea of

marital bliss.

 

And therefore unless you comprehensively rethink your

entire approach to this matter, are willing to extend

to me the common courtesy of treating me as

well as accepting me for the intelligent

woman that I actually am and explain in simple

and unequivocal language why you think you

want to marry me, then from my personal

perspective this relationship that we

currently have is unconditionally

and permanently at an end!

 

© Stanley V. Collymore

26 November 2013.

 

 

Commentary:

In Britain marriage is often entered into without giving much thought to it and usually in the hope that what difficult problems there are that exist will somehow automatically right themselves once the wedding ceremony is over and the marriage becomes a reality. And anyway if this doesn’t happen our easy divorce laws do guarantee an uncomplicated exit  from any disastrous marriage.

 

But what about the psychological damage inherent in all this and to those involved, not forgetting the invariably very significant financial burdens that the rest of our society are left saddled with because of the immaturity of those who can’t distinguish between personal sexual gratification and mature commitment in the relationships that they cavalierly embark upon?

Reviews

[Raymond Federle]

Good work. I like this although I feel as if I've just been to see the barrister and had a good scolding. lol :)