Disposable Society

Rant Rant Rant

If you guys follow me on my Instagram, my stories show two weeks of drinking and partying non-stop. But as with all social media that is what I wanted people to see. I did a lot of things in the sidelines that were personal. But even though I met some amazing people on this trip, and had some of the most amazing experiences. I think... Actually I overthink, and what I realized being around people from around the world is that a lot. (not all) Is that a lot of people have the mentality of the "Disposable society" meaning that we use and then we throw away for the next great thing. Materials, Relationships, Sex. Its all disposable now to a lot of people. And again those are the life choices they like and I respect that fully, but speaking to some individually I have this notion a lot of people who are doing this are really insecure or sad inside. Yet they get really defensive when someone might question there way of living.

And again like with every writing I make, I want to make sure people know that I do not care what people do, everyone has control of there own body and I fully respect that, do what makes you happy. This writing is more of a concern how we are treating each other as disposable sexual objects, and how it effects the mind of a person.

Boracay as always is a amazing destination to relax by the beach and enjoy one to fifteen bevvies, also they have great restaurants to eat at after you soaked hours of sunlight. After the beautiful sunsets in the island I swear you can hear the mating calls of people ready to find there sex partners for the night. Yes I know people like to have sex, nothing is wrong with that, but being here made me realize how easy it is nowadays to get a one night stand. Hell I wont lie there was a lot of beautiful girls that were into me, but I wasn't really after that to start with. I've learned a lot about myself for the past two weeks being in the island, and I have learned how a lot of how hook up culture is taking over the world by storm and its effects on how the night plays out. 

Its not about enjoying the night and communicating with other travelers and sharing experiences, its about who can I hook up with tonight? And who can I brag about it the next morning. Seriously staying two weeks in Boracay it was like seeing a tv show on repeat but with different people. Girl gets dolled up, guy gets super drunk, girls go out and drink till there drunk, guy finally talks to girl, they dance makeout, party all night then go back to the dorm for a little fun time. Next day its the guy bragging about the night, and either the girl boasting about it too or regretting it while hungover. I saw that constantly and I kinda got a little sad, because for me I feel like there is no substance to it, sex is meaningless, well I mean maybe for just physical pleasure but that is it. Also I am not being a prude or want all girls to be virgins and guys to not want girls. I want everyone to have a healthy sex life, and hey its normal to find someone extremely attractive you want to take them home. What I am trying to point out now its way to easy now. Meaning guys settle for any girl that will put out, and girls just go with douchiest guy who can make them laugh and says nice things to her. 

Not only did I see a lot of cheating on both sides, I see that we are losing connection with each other, more people were on there phones then actually trying to have a conversation with each other. And not to brag but maybe that is why I did so well with people this time around, because I genuinely wanted to have a good time and always tried to make people around me laugh probably every night I was going to table to table talking and laughing with everybody. To be honest I am way more grateful that my ex fiance was completely different then most of the girls I have encountered these few months, I genuinely think she is making it harder for the next girl to enter my life because she set such a high standard. I digress I did meet some lovely people and went on some great dates with beautiful women, but again when the night started and they knew I was not putting out (I can't believe I am doing it to, my sixteen year old self with punch me) they would go to the next guy that wants to have a one night stand. Its like nowadays you have to end up with a sex partner at the end of the night or its not a good night. I don't care if you meet a guy/girl and then you click and just things tend to fall into place and then stuff happens later. No go for it, but now its just like robotic and very shallow.

I think the real reason why I am going on a awful rant is because I saw a lot of cheating. And I also saw how easy it was for a girl to get over there exes. I talked to girls and guys about there relationships back home, and how they deeply express there love for there partner, and then to see them at night flirting or kissing another person and then going back to the rooms. I talked to girls expressing how long it took them to recover from break-ups. And most of them told me they lasted about two weeks to a month. I laughed because it has taken me ages to fully recover from my heartbreak. Though I do realize people process heartbreak differently. I just was kinda bummed out how easy it was for a girl to completely move on like that. Like the years together meant nothing. 

Though I realize this rant probably has a lot of flaws or double standards but at the end of day it is sort of sad that this is what its coming too.

"Overthinking, the art of creating problems that weren't there in the first place"

-Andrew Paul Caasi