Three Reasons Why Modern Day Relationships Tend To Not Last

The phrase you complete me rather then to push forward with love

Why do modern day relationships seem to be rather short?

I am sure I probably do not really know the full answer to this question, but with a lot of research and just plainly observing couples I have come to three conclusions on why it ends so fast. Now this is just from my opinion, I know I am not supposed to write a article with your own opinion. But I digress I just like to put my thoughts out there. 

And no I do not think all modern day relationships are like this or am I against modern relationships. I know a lot of lovely couples that just click together, I am a supporter on committed relationships. I often think I learned more about myself in a relationship then being single and promiscuous. You learn a lot about yourself when you love someone unconditionally. One night stands are easy, relationships are extremely difficult. I like solving difficult things!

Impulse pleasure culture, and the difficulty of ego.

For most of western countries that are doing well for themselves, we live a rather comfortable life. Since we really do not need to worry about finding our next meal or where we are going to sleep we tend to seek our attention more towards pleasure. Nothing is wrong with it. I mean I get it you work hard you should enjoy life at any given moment. We live now for self gratification and also the term "You Only Live Once". So that quote has given most young adults the excuse to party like its no tomorrow, and to have intimate impulse pleasures to sate our sexual needs. In short most people try to live based on there impulse desires. I cannot blame them I was the same, I fell for it and later on in life I paid for it. Now I am not telling you not to do these things, its your life if instant gratification is your thing and your truly happy doing things by impulse, then by all means more power to you. No one wants to deal with emotional pain no more, that is why you tend to see a lot of couples after they break up they look for one night stands, or drink till they drop. They will do anything to not feel the pain and rather just find someone to either warm there bed or give them emotional comfort. But I feel as if that idea of instant gratification is ruining relationships because no matter what, the passion of your lover will calm over time. And since most people in my generation don't like that idea they get bored or say they are not happy and move on to someone or something that brings them that next high in life. We need to learn that sometimes when we are in a relationship we are there to give to the other person without expecting anything in return. That maybe just maybe you are the reason why you are unhappy and it wasn't your partner. I have seen four relationships that I knew personally that broke up in the last four months. And all of them had the same response "I wasn't happy" and then there onto there next hunt for a new relationship. But yes I understand there are circumstances where people do need to leave the relationship because it is toxic. I am more so trying to point out that no one really wants to deal with relationship struggles. Its all about yourself and your ego. The one thing I see in people who are in struggling relationships they tend to look on how the other person affects them, and not even look if they are flawed themselves. Its all about us now and what makes us happy which in turn makes modern day relationships hard to keep.

Woman don't really need Men no more.

Its true we live in a day and age where women don't need men for support. I think its great and more power to them, but recent statistics show in countries like in Japan, and Sweden. It has its negative affects on not only a decline in population, but in depression and in loneliness. I was watching TV on the new "sex dolls" that will be distributed across the world. That really saddened me that men and women are really scared of having a relationship with a real person. I guess they see the doll as an easy outlet to the idea of there perfect partner. Well to me its all a sham, you give up on one of the most beautiful things that you can receive in life to have something fake... But I digress woman don't really need men, they are part of the work force. They can literally live independently from men. Again nothing is wrong with that, but that has caused a shift where woman pursue there careers over a relationship. And I do not want a ton of feminist jumping on me for this so I will state this. I do not think anything is wrong of woman to pursue there dreams, I am happy we live in this day and age where woman get the same opportunities, I want to see nothing more then happy individuals doing there dream jobs. Along time ago females played more of the support role or the caretaker while the man was the bread winner. The ole fashion sh%t. But now you have two individuals that are both striving for there careers and that could get messy if there is no communication. Yes always support your partner if they really want to do something to make themselves happy. But I feel as that gives people in relationships in tough situations to make. Career or there relationship. And I think most people will choice there career to better themselves, and leave the relationship because it will hinder there pursuit with there career. I really don't think I can solve this one, but I know that it does affect modern day relationships. Maybe someone smarter and way more articulate can solve this one.

The phrase "You complete me" 

 

This gives your partner so much weight on there shoulders. Because inevitably everyone will let you down somehow. And this is the reason why people leave, because they can't keep up with your expectations of them. And no I am not saying you cannot love your partner and say nice things, but I think that statement puts a expectation on them. And not only does it do that you are basically telling yourself without this person you are incomplete. And that is what leads to devastating break ups for people who think these things. You should already be a complete person when you get in a relationship. Both of you should be complete but you guys love each other enough to build something together. Understand that no one will complete you but yourself, yes a person can change your life for the better. But it is only because you let them change you.

"Relationships are never easy, but I feel as if we lost the idea of struggling with your partner, and now we just worry about our own ego"

-Andrew Paul Caasi