Giving Your All Or Giving Nothing

Why its always best to give it your best try.

Why give your all when you can still fail?

Well because it is better failing then not knowing what could have happened. I understand that I am not the only person who holds this idea to heart, in fact I learned it from other people. I know that sometimes even though you gave your all, things sometimes inevitably fail. But understand I believe failure is essential to ones personal growth. I personally never really enjoyed failing, until just recently I hated any idea of losing or failing. I understood that failure was a part of life, but in my heart I just hated it, and even the fact that I gave it my all even worsened the thought of failing. 

But now that I grasped the concept on the inevitability of failure in life, I feel at ease with going about my life. No I haven't given up and just accept whatever comes my way on the contrary. I will always give my all to the things I am passionate about, even if it isn't successful. Because inside I know I did what I wanted, I tried my best, but it just was not meant to be. I stay true to myself knowing that I really tried and make the thing I want to happen a reality. Honestly giving my all and sacrificing myself to something I am passionate about made me grow a lot. I can look back at my short life and realize that when I really did try my best, not only was I usually happy about the result but I felt this inner peace inside me.

Why are we always so scared to take the first step to something we know we want inside? Why do we choice comfort and pleasure on where we are at even though we know we are miserable inside. Fear of the unknown, fear of working really hard for something but nothing comes to it. Yes these are genuine fears I have them all the time myself, but I try not to let it control me as much anymore. "The things you fear in life you end up attracting". Its better to do something you want and fail then not do it at all. I will give you two true stories that illustrate on taking the step and not taken any step.

So the first example is myself... (Because you know I am vain like that, and its always about me). Honestly throughout my early twenties and since then, I did the things I wanted to do . I usually was very blunt about it, when it came to things, mma, girls, etc. I knew that if I didn't try I would regret it, and so even though I failed more then I succeeded the several times I did accomplish brought me joy in that moment in time. Though some were pleasure impulses and I do regret my promiscuity, but it happened and I cannot change it. But here is something recent that is happening in my life as we speak. I have always wanted to build a hostel ever since I started traveling. I had all these grand designs on how it would be built and managed. And to be honest no one really believed me besides my former fiance and my dad. The fear of all the paperwork, license, and just overall hard work even scared me. For the longest time I even thought it was a pipe dream, that I would just say I was going to start one up, but never do it. Actually multiple times I brought it up to family and friends, and to them they told me all the hurdles that I had to go to. It was really disheartening to here my goal become more and more of a dream. And even at that time I was dealing with a lot of personal issues and work was picking up so I said to myself "maybe I will bring this back up when I am steady". Then it hit me, I was never going to be stable, If I gave up now even though it was my dream what kind of man would I be? I really love meeting people from around the world, its the best feeling to talk to people with different backgrounds. So yeah I am taking the leap to build my hostel in the Philippines. Even though there is a lot of hurdles I might as well give it my all, and try my best to start it. Because even though it may fail (more then likely) I know in my heart I pursued something I wanted to do. If that fails I could always do porn... Kidding 

Though I will keep her name confidential for obvious reasons. I have been talking to one of my close friends from childhood recently, she randomly sent me a message asking for advice on how to stop fearing the unknown and if she was making a mistake in her troubled relationship. Shes always been a super smart girl since I have known her. Honor student, Graduated university with a bachelors (now going for her masters). Just overall a girl who seems to have the straight arrow life. Her life seems perfect, but in reality she is not happy. Even though she loves her boyfriend she left him because she told me something was missing. She wants to be in a different career path, but she is scared all her hard work is going to waste if she fails. She is sad because while she works as a waitress her friends are already in there fields of work. She told me "she was not happy on where she was at but was to unsure if she made a right decision on breaking up with her ex". I told her that "at the end of the day make sure its your choice, whatever it may be it might be bad it might be good for you. But at least you know you made that decision for yourself and respect yourself for that". I tried to give her the best advice I could give her at that time. A couple months passed by and she messaged me again stating she was still scared and still unsure on what to do, and that she felt even worst then before the last time we spoke. And this is what I am trying to point out, even though she stayed in the safety/pleasure zone. Being stagnant and letting opportunities slide made her more depressed. She decided to not make that step. And even though she may have passed a huge failure, she still ended up feeling like a failure for doing nothing. She cried on the phone telling me that "I just don't think It was right to leave my ex" and "I still do not know what career I want to do". I feel like a lot of us go through these thoughts she has. I do not blame her because I still am scared of the future at times or even let the past haunt me. Though she has reconciled with her boyfriend and they are happy again, things are looking up for her. Recently she has finally decided to take her path of her choice. Know that I am really proud of you.

We all will one day take big steps in our life and it will alter it for the better or for the worst. But if you do end up deciding to take that step I applaud you give it your best shot, and even if its not to your liking at least you tried. I use to worry about my love life my work life and my fighting life future all the time. Now I just try to live in the now and accept where I am. Yes I know there is a lot of improvements that can be made in my current situation, but I still try to find something I am grateful about in that point and time.

"setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into visible" -Tony Robbins

-Andrew Paul Caasi