Mature Men Do Not Argue With Women

Why you will always lose an argument with a significant other even if you know they are wrong.

I wish I knew this back in the day.

Things would have been totally different if I knew about this. SAYS EVERYONE, but it is true, things would have been different, but I digress we cannot change the past. We all must learn from our mistakes and move forward. Corey Wayne has taught me a lot this past seven months, and I can only thank my friend who introduced me to him. Without this information I would have done the same thing over and over and feel sorry for myself when things didn't go my way.

"But I know I am right, she did this, so I told her that, and then she got mad at me for it" "I honestly didn't know she was mad, she should have told me this so I could work things out" "F*$k the b*%$h she can be angry over there, I will do me over here I do not care its not my problem" I feel like every guy who has had a significant other thought of at least one of these lines, or something along that.

In all relationships there can always be tension, I mean usually when you first meet someone you are probably your best self, you do not argue because you are intrigued by the other person, You do not want to start anything because you do not want to lose that person. Because in reality when we really don't know someone it is easier to discard them from your life. So we tend to be on our best behavior. Unless you do that a*****e vibe when you first meet someone. Hey I don't judge, that attitude sometimes works. Once the relationship is past its honey moon phase people tend to get relax and start showing there shortcomings. The things that excited you now annoy you. You start to realize there flaws, and the worst part you start to point them out.

I know for a fact I did a lot of things wrong in all my relationships, I have understood what I did, and now realize I really was not the best person out there that I made myself out to be. Now I want to talk about a lot of the things I did wrong, but lets stick to one bad thing I did. 

I argued a lot towards the end.

I want to talk about being "right" or "winning an argument with a girl" as most guys I have a huge ego. I like winning, in wrestling I enjoyed when I pinned a guy, in Kickboxing I enjoyed punching a guy to submission, and lastly I loved winning arguments. But to think about it I never really won, I just always ended up making a fool of myself. 

I actually never was the argumentative type in all my relationships in the beginning. I honestly just let most things slide, even when things annoyed me I just stored it away or just let it go. Naturally I was like that, but over time I started speaking up, to full on yelling and fighting.

Now I am not saying "Don't argue for the sake of avoiding confrontation" its actually healthy to state your concerns to your partner. But to fight is a different story, Corey Wayne states "I know you do not understand women if you argue with them" You are probably thinking well am I just supposed to take her f%$king mouth all the time and shut my mouth? Nope and I will put out the steps what I learned from Corey Wayne. I actually unintentionally did the things he taught on talking to your significant other, and it always worked, but after a while my ego got involved and I lost sight of that. It is hilarious it takes pain to make you realize things.

Men are logical thinkers Women are emotional thinkers.

the feminist are going to kill me for that statement I just know it. But from my experience this saying has some truth to it. Now I am not saying women do not think logically and men do not have emotions. I am saying how men and women argue it is different. And that is why when men usually don't get there way they start yelling and woman close down or shut off even sometimes blowing up too. It is the fact that a lot of men including myself didn't know how to communicate to a girl when she is upset. So what is the best way to resolve a conflict. Well to be truthful sometimes you will never see eye to eye on things. And that is okay the other person is entitled to there own opinion (even though it is wrong) jokes aside. You are with that person for a reason, is the argument worth losing attraction to your mate? Dr. Wayne Dyer once said "End all conflicts with love and the fight will be over" Ending things with you still loving the other person is the best way to end any argument. It is easier said then done, but that I know is the best way for everything.

I am going to give two sample fights, and how you should deal with them. Lets say the first example you did something to piss her off and you do not know what you did wrong. You ask her "What is wrong?" and she respond angrily "Do not talk to me what you did really pissed me off" and you respond "Well I cannot fix the problem if I do not know what I did wrong?" And then she says "Don't worry about its fine" And every guy knows this and if you don't you are a idiot. SHE IS NOT FINE I REPEAT SHE IS NOT FINE. So you end up trying to understand why she is mad and you push the issue until she says "LEAVE ME THE F$%K ALONE" and then all hell breaks lose and you say "WELL F%$K YOU C^&T STAY MAD I TRIED!" I laugh right now because I was this type of guy, trying to always fix things and doing it wrong.

Keep in mind sometimes you need to give a girl space because they are to angry. I made the mistake of trying to solve issues fast and at the spot, and even if I succeeded it would turn up later in the day. Also if you have a girl who shuts down and doesn't communicate it is best if you end that relationship because countless studies show. Relationships are built on communication, so if your girl is the type to not talk about it, it is best to let that person go. So back to the argument. When she says you pissed her off someway, keep in mind in that moment whatever she says to you hurtful or mean just realize it is in that moment she is feeling that way, so do not take it personal. To being a "Man" you have to be the pillar that wont let anything break you, stay centered my friends. So you pissed her off, understand her that one of your actions pissed her off it made her hurt, you technically unintentionally did something that was not to her liking. first step: get to the bottom of what you did wrong. Corey Wayne has videos on youtube about this so check them out for more detailed steps. With a calm voice ask her that you want to resolve the issue and that you do not want her to be mad and that you want to understand why she is mad at you. I had a family member for all intense and purposes did not understand why stating verbally how attractive other girls are right in front of her was getting him in trouble. he stated to me "I mean I am being honest there are attractive people out there, she should know I would never leave her, but she isn't the only hot girl out there. Why cant I say it out loud?" My cousin is an idiot isn't he.

Once you get her to open about what shes mad about like "I am mad you left me to go talk to your friends, and you didn't come back for a while" understand in that moment she felt as if you abandoned her that you neglected her. And most girls tend to not understand guys usually are clueless about things to upset them, and genuinely do not do it to piss off the girl. So girls who read this tell us straight forward without anger, and usually guys who are mature would immediately apologize and set things straight. Understand the underlying facts why she got mad because she could say well "you were gone for hours" its actually not because you were gone for hours it is because emotionally she felt that you left her and that upset her, which in turn made her angry at you. So state it say "So you are angry because I did this and that made you this and that. Am I understanding you correctly?" repeat and understand. Do not just say "I am sorry" really really understand why she was mad and confirm it. After you find out the cause tell her "Well I am sorry you felt abandoned, that was not my intention to do that, you know I love you and that I was just excited seeing my friends I am sorry that I didn't realize that me leaving abruptly would hurt you, next time I will try not to repeat the same mistake I love you." That is it! You understood why she got mad, You explained that it wasn't your intentions to make her mad, and you apologized for making her mad. Remember women want to be understood its your job to do that. Corey Wayne taught me all of this.

Lastly if she is the who pisses you off. First: You state calmly that what she is doing is effecting you. Second: Affirm that you do not do that to her so why is it okay for her to do it to you. third: Be ready to walk away if its a big issue. Lets just say its a big issue and shes giving out her number to guys she finds hot. And she states "Stop being so controlling" then understand she probably isn't going to change and yelling and trying to fight the other guy isn't going to solve anything. What I realized over time is that the more you try to control a person the more they want to be free from your grasp. Yes you can state what is bothering you about a persons habits, but it is up the other person to change them. So if they continue be ready to walk away and mean it. As a man you should never be afraid to speak up and also women to, it goes both ways. 

If she doesn't want to stop then that is okay you deserve someone who loves you and treats you with respect. Move on there is another girl out there. Unless you are a cuck if so shut your mouth and watch while other guys flirt and swarm and disrespect you right in front of your face.

Wayne Dyer "End all arguments with love"

-Andrew Paul Caasi