Love is never a constant thing, but that doesn't mean it fades very easily either. Sometimes it's just not visible to us since we're too busy looking at other things. In my very impersonal experience, romantic love has 3 main stages (though they also tend to fluctuate quite a bit):
1. The beginning, in which love seems to overshadow everything, and be the most important thing in our lives. This is when we daydream and fantasize about our loved ones, and feel each and every one of their heart beats, as if it was our own. We worship them, as their existence seems to give our lives a new type of meaning. Unfortunately, this is the shortest out of the 3 stages.
2. We start taking our loved ones for granted - they've just become an integral part of our lives, and other things overshadow the love that we share with them. Sometimes being shadowed by other things, such as work, taking care of the kids, and even taking out the trash, it seems that the love has faded. It's still there - it's just not as central as it used to be. It is still very important, but other things have to proceed it in order for us to function in our everyday lives.
Many don't survive this stage, simply because they think love isn't there anymore. It is, it's just hidden behind other things, and if we let ourselves believe that it's gone, sooner or later it truly will be, as we find ourselves attracted to other people, and forming a new bond. This is the most crucial stage, and also the longest, but to the victor belong the spoils of the next step:
3. Old age, in which there's nothing more to live for except for love. The truly lucky ones spend a few years sitting in a chair with their loved ones sitting right next to them, just staring into their eyes while holding their hand. That's when even the most skeptic find out the love was there all along.
But some, unfortunately, don't get to enjoy this stage for very long, or at all for that matter, and that's when one discovers how important love really is, because those people are the ones who lose themselves to diamante - they have nothing more to live for.
My point I'm trying to make here is that love can't be lost unless we allow it to slip away, and it's usually there whether you realize it or not. Remember that, and hopefully you'll be one of the lucky ones, dying in their sleep in their loved one's arms after sharing all 3 stages, a full life, with them. You deserve that. :)
My name is Rayne and I have been writing since high school. I took a long vacation from writing, and slowly starting to come back into it again. I admit that I am not the greatest writer, I'm just doi.. more..