Fakers

All of us have run across fakes. They lie. They aren't real. They hide behind their device. They are not who they say. It's frustrating. They play with our emotions. But, are there real ones?

I don't like to be played    I don't like fakes

They have dark motives.     They want something

Their presentation is fake      They want your attention

They ask the usual things       they won't answer you

It's about  what THEY want     It's not about YOU        

They deflect            They play with you

You become guarded    You try to be careful.   

They have tendencies      They are predictable  

They're all the same      I know it when it happens now

It's right around the corner.    Then comes the pain The hurt

but, then     

you find one    A REAL one One who can pass your test

One who is genuine      One who cares One who is real 

You don't want to trust    But you see honesty You see good

You fear them    You measure their words

You want to see more   You don't want to push   You fear being hurt.  

Could this be real?  Or is it like the others?

Online scams     Fakers Hiding behind a device

They are tough and confident from miles away  

Courage can come from hiding with a fake name or blocking others

You want to feel   You want to trust You want hope     

Then you see her    She is different She has to be    She has a heart She is unique She is genuine    You don't want to screw up

This needs to work    But can it? Can she be a friend?   Will this last? Will I ruin it? Will she pull away?  

She is beautiful too    But mostly, she is real  

Or, is she?

Author's Note

Can you identify with what I'm saying?

Reviews

[Samuel Dickens]

A fault of mine that I've never outgrown is that of taking people at their word. Until they give me a reason not to trust them, I believe they are earnest. As you might guess, I've been burned a few times.
And in the realm of romance, I really, really want any possible relation to be much better than they appear. "They'll come around. I can fix those faults of theirs." Yeah, romance is a minefield, eager to blow a man's legs off.
So yes, I can definitely relate. If I was young again and in the market, I'd only hope to think these words you've written. Elvis was right... "only fools rush in". Great and thoughtful writing, Franky.

[Susan 🦋]

Yes, here it is. Yes, I most certainly can identify! Sigh, it's a crazy word we live in.

[Ballpark Frank]

Thanks so much for your nice review! I appreciate it very much.

[whatrachelwrites]

true on so many levels! sad that there are so many people out there who just use people for there own gratification. makes it so much more important to be real and a nice person.

[Ballpark Frank]

I agree totally. There are definitely genuine ones here I know. We just have to be cautious.....but not too guarded after all. It's nice to connect with people after all. Thanks again!

[Kari Rakitan]

This makes a lot of sense to me. It reminds me of my ex-boyfriend, who lied about his age when he met me and his his meth habit from me for five years. If someone lies about one thing, they'll tend to lie about other things. I learned a lot from that relationship and I'm not sorry for the experience, but now that ex-boyfriend is the only person who is no longer welcome in my life. Everyone else, those who treated me with honesty and integrity, are "former" boyfriends and not exes.

On a side note, I find the line "One who can pass your test" quite interesting. My ex was constantly testing me over things, and it got downright annoying. Looking at it now, I think he didn't trust me because he didn't even trust himself.

Why do I insist on drawing a distinction between former boyfriends and exes? For one thing, my former high school boyfriend transitioned, and she is now my best friend. I never felt that she was fake, even back when she identified as a guy. Back then, she simply didn't have the courage to explore her feminine side.

We all want something from our friendships and relationships, whether that is simply the companionship or money. The fakeness comes from hiding those motives, which we are driven to do by a society that frowns upon "gold diggers" and the like.

I don't know if you are familiar with this song, but I think it illustrates the point very well:
https://youtu.be/qeMFqkcPYcg
That's "Sweet Dreams" by Eurythmics in case the link doesn't work.

My husband was very clear about the fact that he wanted babies from me, and I was very clear about the fact that if he wanted babies, he would be the one paying for them. I wouldn't have agreed to marry him otherwise!

[Just Kim]

I really enjoyed this write, yet so true as well

[Ballpark Frank]

Thank you so very much. Sorry it took so long to respond. I genuinely appreciate you taking the time.

[M]

Yes you are talking about...and mostly any another social media, it's really hard to identify who is real but becomes easier when you observe...

[Ballpark Frank]

Thank you for reading and commenting. And welcome aboard!

[Onlyme]

Nicely done and so very true. The ying and yang of my own personality, giving to much and getting kicked in the teeth in return.

[.]

Unfortunately, Frankie, you are correct....the fakes are everywhere online and also in our reality, too. We all have a predesigned desire for self preservation; no one wants to reach out with an honest heart and be exposed to the treachery of another. I guess its better to just be friendly but also cautious until we have all the right information about a person in our orbit. Only then can we extend a branch of solid friendship. This is a very relevant theme, dear Frankie and an important one for this online forum as well. I enjoyed the thoughts in this one. :))

[Beccy]

Online is the new way to play lets pretend, so anonymous and so very difficult to sift the wheat from the chaff.

Deceit and fakery of course, has been part of the makeup of certain types long before the internet was spawned and will unfortunately continue to be so. I don't have the answer, don't really know how to guard against such people; and so I identify 100% with your sentiment; though I would add, that the cafe, thus far, has been a good place to be.

Beccy.

[Ballpark Frank]

Thank you for reading and commenting. How true! There is a lot of fakes. I've been with writerscafe on and off for 11 years. There used to be a ton of drama here but it seems to have really levelled off. Thank goodness.

[Rania M]

This story strikes me as the real picture of life out there. Fakers abound in the world. Sadly perhaps, they now outnumber the genuine guys. Believe at your own risk. Invest as little as you can. Well stated.

[Ballpark Frank]

Thank you so much my friend! I appreciate your thoughts and your time too.

[Rania M]

It’s wonderful reading you ❤️