Ladies, Stand Up!!!

To women out there, this is a must-read! Be yourself always!

Relationships are not easy, a lesson I have learned the hard way. We as women need to appreciate ourselves, and most importantly need to have respect for our time and love. We tend to give everything and too soon in a relationship yet wonder why the guy takes off and runs with it. What gives? Well, think about it....if you give up the goods, wait for him to call and spend time with you, and strain your emotions and heart to make sure he's ok at all times, well, where did your life go? Relationships should be give and take, not all give, not all take. So, women of the world out there, start focusing on yourself!!! If you love yourself and take the time to ensure that your life is where you want it to be, or at least beginning to show signs of your goals and plans, then guess what....you'll be a lot more prepared to take on someone else and their own set of expectations and goals. Additionally, when you focus on yourself like that, you will automatically be more grounded and stable; instead of depending on your significant other to make you feel good about yourself and spending time with you, it won't matter because you are already happy, already fulfilled, and definitely already know who you are with or without someone. Think of it like this: your significant other is a bonus! Not 50 percent of you, not 100 percent (at this point you need to back away and run because you are lost)...no, ladies, your significant other should not complete you. You are who you are, they shouldn't in any way change that! You together will make 200 percent, two whole people, two different lives, two different entities. Yes, you will mesh and compliment each other. But compliment and complete....two very different words and two entirely different approaches to relationships and life in general. It's time to make a change, and only you are responsible for the outcome. You make your own fate, and wouldn't you like a beautiful creative design for your life template? Or do you really want someone else to half-way create your life, run away with it, leaving you feeling hopeless and half a person? Stand up for yourself and what you want! It's ok to tell your partner that you have a problem with something...after all, if they really love you, they will still be there when the heat blows over. If they don't stick around, they weren't worth your time to begin with. Only you can truly be the person you are looking for. No one is perfect, but if you hit the point where you are lost and don't remember who you are or how you got there, it's time to pull a 180, take a long look in the mirror, and face yourself. Not them, just you. Realize your potential, your dreams, who you really are....the right significant other will be right beside you doing the same thing, and you will support each other in your independence together.