I Need Help!

Any advice? I don't know where to start!

So I know this guy who's completely on the wrong track. He was kicked out of our high school last year. A lot of people hate him, there are a lot of nasty rumors about him, and he is not a good guy.

He's pretty much the definition of a bad guy. His appearance doesn't help. Dreads, tattoos, grill.. don't get me wrong I love all those things, he's hot as s**t and could get almost any girl in bed.

But that's the problem. He wants me, but not a relationship. He just wants to f**k. He's already been in juvenile prison and does a lot of bad stuff. He lives in a really bad neighborhood less than a minute away from me.

I know you can't change a guy. He's walking off a cliff with his life and I just want to try to nudge him in the other direction. Any ideas on how to help?

It might be a waste of time and I know that. Please don't give me that as the answer, I know it's a possibility but I'm not giving up on this guy.

Author's Note

Comment with any ideas please!

Reviews

[N.A. Deakins]

First of all, whatever you decide, let it be because you're following the best possible route for you life. I'm not going to say do or don't do it. Just, before you decide anything, consider all the possible positives and negatives.

You seem to be young based on this question. I might be wrong. But you have an entire life ahead of you. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? Does this man help you get there? If you don't have an idea where you want to be, perhaps now's the time to decide. Because if you live life without direction, some direction will find you, and it is not always a happy path.

It seems on first impression, this is the type of man who cares more about self-pleasure than caring about other human beings...especially women. If you are into that kind of man, than fine. If not, consider the possible attachment that comes with having sex, and then being pushed away because of it.

A man like this will not respect a woman for having sex with him, yet he will find himself to be above beyond the ordinary man deserving the utmost respect. A lot of women go for that kind of man because he is self-confident and self-assured.

Now, you could go another route, have sex with him, and then turn a cold shoulder on him. However, you must also consider if that is they kind of person YOU want to become. Your choices decide who you are.

If, on the other hand, he does want you because he likes you and want's to be in a relationship, ask yourself if this is the type of man you want to be with? Who knows, it could lead to a fantastic relationship like the movies, so passionately in love, great sex, etc.

Also understand, who you associate with is who you become. If this man has already been to juvi then...he will have that sort of influence on your future. You would be traveling down a similar path, and don't expect to change him either. It never works.

Sometimes a little decision like this can change your entire life. Sometimes it's just another day and will go by without a change. But if you think about the decision so much as to ask for advice, it might mean it will have long lasting percussions.

Last note: live life without regrets, and if you have regrets, learn from them and become stronger.

Love and Light

[Coyote Poetry]

I don't know. I have three daughters. I tell people. Balance the good and the bad. If you work and have a child. Better to keep distance. Can't change people. People have good or bad dreams. Some folks are on a dead-end road. Old wise Grandpa saying. "Think before you act. Add up the good and the bad. Ain't no good. Leave it alone."
Coyote

[Listmaker]

It is a goood thing to care about someone so much that you do don't want to see them mess up their life. The only thing you can do is let him know you care and keep trying to get him to see that he's heading down the wrong path. He probably doesn't have very many positive influences in his life. You may not be able to save him, but at least he will know you cared for the rest of his life. Also, you never know how something you say to him now might affect him later. BUT do not let him use you for sex or anything else. Put yourself and your pride first.