Loneliness and the Self

Thoughts on loneliness and loving oneself

     I saw someone once post this: "Loneliness is a feeling. Painful as it may be, it is valid. Its not a problem to be solved but an emotion to be processed. Let it be something you accept", however I don't agree with this (nor the grammar mistake, ha ha). I feel, the more you love yourself and enjoy your time alone, the less lonely you'll become. Just as anger is a feeling one can control, you don't have to feel loneliness. Loneliness has a cause and therefore has a solution. Personally, I feel loneliness should be solved because there really is no reason to feel it if you're happy with being with yourself, your thoughts, and your hobbies; this keeps me from being lonely. It doesn't need to be solved with companionship, in fact I feel this is the wrong reason to be in a relationship and that if someone feels like they need a relationship to be whole then they shouldn't be in one at all; not until that person can love their-self and their-own company. Be independent, not dependent on others for company. Whenever someone says they don't like to be alone, it feels to me as if they're afraid of being alone with their thoughts or just thinking in general, which I find incredibly daft and immature. If one don't like thinking then why live? After all, that would make one's existence quite pitiful and sombre. Learn to love and enjoy yourself ~

Author's Note

This isn't to say one can never feel lonely, but to feel it (nearly) every time when alone isn't mentally nor emotionally healthy.

Reviews

[Coyote Poetry]

I agree.
"Learn to love and enjoy yourself ~ "
Some people are lonely with people near. A powerful chapter leaving the reader with something to think about. Thank you for sharing the excellent chapter.
Coyote

[Astrid]

It is true that some feel lonely even in the company of others, though I believe that to be due to them missing (or lacking) something within their-self; usually a result of depression or the feeling of disconnection for that which is around them. Thank you for the read and review :)

[Coyote Poetry]

My pleasure to read your work and you are welcome.

[wordman]

if you have self worth i think you can overcome being lonely
you program your self to do things daily

[B]

You are so wise
i never felt alone
except in a room filled with people

i enjoy every second i never need to leave my house
only one person i could enjoy being around
not because i need to fill anything
i just love his company
everyone else not really

love this piece so smart
and true
we do not have to live through sadness or loneliness
we need to find ourselves our passions

WAW

[Astrid]

Exactly :) I find such relaxation and peace in what others call "boredom". It probably helps that I love to learn, so I can fill my time absorbing more knowledge; never heard someone say "Hey, want to hang-out and learn stuff?" before.

[B]

true that ..... you are very clever

[Astrid]

Thank you :)

[Mr_M]

You have hit the nail on the head here. I too find it very sad that someone can not be alone with their thoughts. Loneliness can be empty, yet aloneness is everything you have described in this piece. The usual misconception of loneliness. Very well put.

[Astrid]

Thank you, I'm going to try to be on more and post more insights ~ Glad you were able to resonate with this one :)