Sorry Ladies!

You already know this....

A man is never a riddle 
Too tough to interpret 
Ladies, what you see 
Is just what you will get!

If he says he cannot stay
Or that he fears to love
He's just not into you
No sign needed from above

If he says he's just a friend 
And may not stick around 
Do believe him and get off
That silly merry-go-round 

'Darkness within' is a ploy
If he wants to keep you at bay
Such ruses he will employ 
If he wants to stay away

Coz when he's head o'er heels
He doesn't play hide n seek
He'll follow you to Mars
Or Venus's tallest peaks

And if for you he cares
He'll camp outside your door
Stuck like gum in your hair
Getting tangled more n more

A man is clear as glass
When he's mad about a dame 
He'll sign and seal the deal
He won't risk playing games 

Trust me, nothing's hidden
No hinting, no manipulating 
What is said is what is meant
No point in complicating 

So if the guy has an excuse
It only means, you're not 'the one'
He's simply toying with you 
Till he finds the 'special someone' 

 

Thus, what you can't edit
Don't you ever ever forget 
Ladies, what you see
Is just what you will get! 

Author's Note

I'd really like a female perspective on this :)

He's Just Not That Into You is a self-improvement book written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo that was published in 2004 and later adapted into a film by the same name in 2009

Reviews

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Yessss, AJ! Just as Queen Bey sang, if a man was truly into his lady, he would put a ring on it. Those that hesitate are just playing games and passing the time. I have seen the film that inspired your poem, (haven't read the book) and it reminded me of a certain friend of mine who was with a guy for 8 years and he never once spoke of the future. When she finally put the question to him, he went awfully cold, blaming this same darkness and disturbed soul you write of here, and he broke it off 3 weeks later. She wasted 8 years for a player. So your poem, especially giving us ladies a male perspective, is one to be applauded. If he is a time waster, move him on. Fine wisdom, my friend. Your 9 stanzas flow effortlessly here. Good to read you again.

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton Madame! Its awesome to hear from you on my poems always. The itch to write this poem was growing and growing as I observed so many louts here talking all these poor ladies for a ride with all their games of darkness and delirium. I thought I'll do my bit for the ladies lol. We don't 'hint', we don't manipulate and we certainly don't back down when its someone we really want to hold on to. Thanks a ton for relating to it.

[sonnie ibadah]

This pretty much sums it all. Too bad most of us are always too happy to delude ourselves with our non-existent superpowers of 'changing him'. Great piece, thank you!

[AJNJ]

You said it and thats it! Ladies think they'll change them. And that's the saddest thing because people change only if they want to. Thanks a ton, Ms. Sonnie and I'm sharing a link with you that you may like to check out:

https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-to-spot-an-assclown/

There you go! Natalie Lue is an interesting blogger. Happy reading :)

And thanks a ton!

[AJNJ]

....tht is...if you havent read her already... :)
oops I forgot to add that !

[sonnie ibadah]

I haven't, Lol. I'll check it out. Thanks

[AJNJ]

You are so welcome :)

[Neville]

I am so glad you found your muse AJ .. and she has not let you down it seems ... I am not familiar with the book you mention but know that gentlemen come in all shapes and guises ... and sadly, not all of them honourable ... but, ..... the same can be said for those of the fairer sex ...

I hope these words get the attention they so deserve and will pop back from time to time because I am interested in what the girls have to say on this matter too ....

... Neville

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton, dear sir! Attempted something other than 10 words after a long time so I'm thrilled you liked it.
In whopping agreement with you that the tenets of this poem could apply to the fairer sex too. And yes, I'm really looking forward to more ladies coming forward. Many many thanks :)

[Neville]

....... always welcome AJ ..

[Tad Winslow]

But also, maybe "the one" isn't for everyone and that doesn't mean people who choose to live a lifestyle against society's grain are bad people. It is a neat poem though and there sure are a lot of dishonest tricksters out there breaking hearts. A younger, more naive, version of myself would have benefited from reading this. I sense that your message will hit home with the right audience.

[AJNJ]

They are not bad people at all. They are just as confused themselves, needing direction and just not into the girl in question. I know absolutely wonderful men do this from time to time. I did this myself a few times. They are not bad, only human. Thanks a ton for your wonderful comment. I appreciate very much.

[Tad Winslow]

Yes, when the hormones get to raging and whatnot there can be a lot of carnage along the way! Personally, I don’t like the idea of marriage and monogamy per se. I love people and want them in my life in a natural sense and not in a by law weird way where your devotion is directly tied to monetary means. That’s just me though! And sorry for feeling compelled to comment as I know you’re looking for the ladies’ input.

[AJNJ]

Love without conditions is probably the best sometimes.
You are most welcome and I appreciate your viewpoint totally :)

[John Alexander McFadyen]

Interesting guide for the 'potential bride' written with wit. Hopefully tongue in cheek as there are many men who manipulate and use women. Enjoyable fun piece. Stanza eight might have slipped the rhyme pattern?

[AJNJ]

Quite tongue-in-cheek sir :)
I enjoyed writing this. I'll look into the 8th stanza. Thanks a ton for the feedback.

[Tania Mo]

This is why i got somethings very clear with my boyfriend right at the beginning.I like this.

[AJNJ]

Wise and practical to do that. Thanks a ton Ms. Tania.

[Chris Shaw]

I won 't disagree with you in the main. If a man wants he will pursue with urgency. I have never had any problem distinguishing the time wasters with the lovestruck. That don' t mean to say men ain' t complex though. There's many areas, I just ponder and scratch my head in puzzlement. Well written my friend and entertaining with it.

Chris

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton, Ms. Chris. I agree with you here. We can be quite complex. But when our life depends on something...? We usually go for it...
I await and treasure your feedback always!

[Chris Shaw]

You are welcome my friend :)

[Papaya]

Enjoyed the read.
I do still find men confusing though. :)
Not everyone is an open book!

[AJNJ]

Men are never complicated. As a man I'm telling you that :)
Thanks a ton, Ms. Ana.

[Inessa]

This is an awfully familiar theme to me, AJ. Ukrainian men are not known for infallible, undying dedication to their women, mainly because they are heavily out populated by women in this country, so they tend to play the field and never commit. So our ladies tend to be very suspicious of any flattery and sycophantic displays of affection, because we know that most likely its all just for show. Your poem gives us all an insight into the male psyche surrounding relations and commitment, and one that is appreciated by this reader for its style, form and well written content. Thank you for the tips.

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton Ms. Inessa. It great to have another lady comment and your views are very appreciated. Inteersting about the Ukranian men. I've heard that Ukranian women are amongst the most beautiful in the world :) Thanks a lot.

[Jimmy Yetts]

You've broken the code of silence, AJ; revealed those few proven tricks
upon which we, guys, still rely.
No more Wildman Treehouse for you!

[AJNJ]

Lol. Just thought I'll clear a few misconceptions, dear sir. Please don't banish me.
Thanks a ton for looking in :)