Sorry Ladies!

You already know this....

A man is never a riddle 
Too tough to interpret 
Ladies, what you see 
Is just what you will get!

If he says he cannot stay
Or that he fears to love
He's just not into you
No sign needed from above

If he says he's just a friend 
And may not stick around 
Do believe him and get off
That silly merry-go-round 

'Darkness within' is a ploy
If he wants to keep you at bay
Such ruses he will employ 
If he wants to stay away

Coz when he's head o'er heels
He doesn't play hide n seek
He'll follow you to Mars
Or Venus's tallest peaks

And if for you he cares
He'll camp outside your door
Stuck like gum in your hair
Getting tangled more n more

A man is clear as glass
When he's mad about a dame 
He'll sign and seal the deal
He won't risk playing games 

Trust me, nothing's hidden
No hinting, no manipulating 
What is said is what is meant
No point in complicating 

So if the guy has an excuse
It only means, you're not 'the one'
He's simply toying with you 
Till he finds the 'special someone' 

 

Thus, what you can't edit
Don't you ever ever forget 
Ladies, what you see
Is just what you will get! 

Author's Note

I'd really like a female perspective on this :)

He's Just Not That Into You is a self-improvement book written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo that was published in 2004 and later adapted into a film by the same name in 2009

Reviews

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Yessss, AJ! Just as Queen Bey sang, if a man was truly into his lady, he would put a ring on it. Those that hesitate are just playing games and passing the time. I have seen the film that inspired your poem, (haven't read the book) and it reminded me of a certain friend of mine who was with a guy for 8 years and he never once spoke of the future. When she finally put the question to him, he went awfully cold, blaming this same darkness and disturbed soul you write of here, and he broke it off 3 weeks later. She wasted 8 years for a player. So your poem, especially giving us ladies a male perspective, is one to be applauded. If he is a time waster, move him on. Fine wisdom, my friend. Your 9 stanzas flow effortlessly here. Good to read you again.

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton Madame! Its awesome to hear from you on my poems always. The itch to write this poem was growing and growing as I observed so many louts here talking all these poor ladies for a ride with all their games of darkness and delirium. I thought I'll do my bit for the ladies lol. We don't 'hint', we don't manipulate and we certainly don't back down when its someone we really want to hold on to. Thanks a ton for relating to it.

[barleygirl]

Loved that book -- read it the moment it came out. Movie is great, too. This concept can never be hammered home hard enuf & your well-rhymed rhythmic efforts make this message clear as a bell. Men get a bad name for being aloof when many times the woman is being delusional, intending to change him. People have a bad habit of trying to change others (a big reason I'm a loner). If anything, your poem hammers this home to an obsessive degree, but the message may still not be getting thru! Artful work that does the original material justice (((HUGS))) Fondly, Margie

[AJNJ]

Indeed, Ms. Margie, You're very right that the message may not get through. Most of my girlfriends have a one-point agenda of trying to change me as I am a bit wayward and won't settle down. This is very irritating because I always make my terms clear at the very start. So its unfair if one walks into it knowing the rules and then tries bending them! I refuse. I was honest. When I want to have babies I'll let them know. What more, I have loads of female friends and cousins on similar rididculous missions. I tell them all to stop, exhale and let life and love be.
Thanks a ton for this very special and insightful review, dear Ms. Margie! I treasure your vistis. HUGS!

[barleygirl]

I never got married or had kids in 64 years & also haven't been in any kind of relationship for a few decades. I'm pathologically independent . . . born on July 4!

[AJNJ]

A very symbolic date for you then! Freedom is exhilarating and watching many of my friends hitched to monotony and domestic strife makes me all the more determined to guard mine fiercely at times! I love being on my own. I'm with myself, never alone.

[Donna]

Absolutely love this poem! When I was young I learned this the hard way, wasting many years of my life with guys who were never serious. It took me along time but I figured it out. What you see is what you get! So right! Thanks for sharing!

[AJNJ]

I guess it works both ways. WE leave some and some leave us. I think its easy enough to read the other persons as the signs are obvious riight from the very start. Its just us with our wishful thinking that we choose to read what our heart wishes for in them.
Thanks a ton for the kind review Ms. Donna. I'm sorry for the delayed response as I was about closing down due to a personal issue. Many thanks once again!

[Cherrie Palmer]

22 Reviews and counting, you have hit a topic many are willing to weigh-in on, myself included;

😊 I watch my grown children and others, fumble about looking for a lasting connection. Which is not easy to find when everyone measures success in what they can squeeze out of the moment. Once the moment cast a shadow, they are off to sunnier days. Girls chase the hope of a intimacy while many males just chase, and in old age both find they have caught nothing but heartache.

The ego of the narcissist flourishes in this new age of ‘give me.’ They don’t seem to know the difference between self-value and self-gratification via projection. As long as people only have time to meet their own needs, the notion of love cannot grow, and to a generation of people that don’t see the process broken will not see the need to rethink such things.

[AJNJ]

I agree with you wholeheartedly on this. We are indeed a very self-centered kind of generation, our focus primarily on our own needs. And as you rightly say, we'll keep ending up with nothing as long as we keep this up. This narcissism you spoke off is in effect so much on the rise that many of my age have even stopped looking for lasting relationships and partners. They just couldn't be bothered they say. It might be a lonely future for many if not most of us.
Thanks a ton, Ms. Cherrie, for the in-depth review. I appreciate this very much. Nice day to you. 🌹

[augustus]

I don't remember what they call it nowadays, but I do know it's against the law to latch yourself onto a woman! Your prose is perfect.

[AJNJ]

Indeed. It should be illegal. Thanks a ton dear sir.

[augustus]

I've remembered - at last! It's called stalking!

[Anastasia]

Some men can carry quite a baggage of hurt from the previous relationships and which takes a long time to heal. But that doesn’t mean they will never heal. It takes time for some men to open up but they are still good human beings. How do you know whats going on in their hearts and minds. Everyone is not uniformly made by god like products of a factory line. So one must never give up on the people they love and no matter what mixed signals they give initially, love and devotion always win. Yes, there are some men also that think committing themselves to a relationship means they must meet certain expectations. These men are usually perfectionists. So again its a fear of failure rather than intended avoidance. So I kind of beg to disagree. But a nicely written poem all the same.

[AJNJ]

"Phir uski Har Ada Se Chalakne Laga Khuloos,
Jab Mujh ko Aitabar Ki Aadat Nahi Rahi"

You can't change someone with love when they lost faith in the entire concept. Lol. Welcome to my page Ms. Sabrina. I'm AJNJ from Delhi, India. Kaise hair mijaaz aapke? Aur Lahore ka mausam kaisa hai? Welcome to my pages. Thanks a ton for your very kind review 😁👍

[AJNJ]

Was that couplet above by Ghalib 🤔☝️...?

[Anastasia]

As far as I know its not. Its a quote by anonymous. I live Mirza Ghalib too. Nice to see he's still appreciated. We do have common cultural roots. The weather is still humid here but going on to cool. We cool down faster here than in India. As this forum is in English I would appreciate it if we kept interaction in English please. Thank you.

[AJNJ]

But how will we appreciate Mirza Ghalib together in English 😜?

[Anastasia]

You have a point :)

[Patricia Wedel]

Many a Dame has lost her Fame by carrying a Torch too Hot to handle... There is a “Catch” in the Sea when the Tide is ready to concede. truly, Pat

[AJNJ]

That's such a beautiful way to put it. Thanks a ton, dear Ms. Pat for such gracious words on this poem. All things wonderful wished for you 🌹

[Patricia Wedel]

🌈 🎶🦋 blessings

[AJNJ]

Thank you....💐😊 💕......

[Robert Trakofler]

Hey man stop giving away our secrets! okay okay your right they aren't exactly secrets:/ I have only truly loved once it was a horrible affliction and do not wish to repeat it:) that's not to say i don't love anymore but that... here is my heart it will only beat if you hold it sort of love it's not gonna happen again:/ I think we only ever get one of those perhaps because it would kill us for it to happen twice

[AJNJ]

You have busted the secret, dear sir! We guts have weaker hearts and couldn't take that kind of thing more than once 😁 So our self-preservation instincts just kick in. Thanks a ton for your views here.

[AJNJ]

.......oops I meant "guys" not guts ..... sorry for the typos.....

[Paul Bell]

I think we all play that game in the beginning, the sweetie jar is full and you want to get to the bottom of it. How many times do you see a girl, and think to yourself, I would love to spend the night with you, but that's all I want to do. Strangely enough, I find women are more mercenary at this. There seem to be a new species of women who go out for sex then go home to a loving cat.

[AJNJ]

Yes. The tables are kind of turning these days. The cats are making it easier for them :) Thanks a ton for your thoughts.

[Paul Bell]

Women, the weaker sex, never.

[Gee]

Mr Right is never Mr Right until he has been moulded into what SHE really wants. My wife has been remoulding for nigh on 28 years now :))
Enjoyed this well written, humorous, rhyming piece

[AJNJ]

Thanks a ton dear sir 😊

[John the Baptist]

Thanks for writing this. Will the ladies learn something from it? Probably not. They continue to think it's possible to housebreak a tomcat.

[AJNJ]

I too doubt this will be of much use, dear sir, but at least I have the satisfaction of having done my bit. Thanks a ton. :)