Men

Growing up, I had a fascination for men. I liked the way they looked, the way they always seemed to say the right thing, even the way they strolled about. But I knew nothing about men. The only men I actually knew were my two brothers and my father.

 

As a youngster, I had a vision that men had to be tall, dark and handsome. They had to be powerful, wealthy, yet charming and intelligent. This brainwashing came from all the movies, TV shows and books I devoured, where men were always portrayed as such, their only flaws being either madly in love with some equally gorgeous woman or being a dangerous, yet seductive villain.

 

But as I aged and actually discovered what a man truly was, this vision quickly dissolved into nothingness. I learned that a perfect man is the last thing I really want. That a strikingly dazzling hunk is not so attractive to me anymore. That being charming and witty is simply another way for a man to get laid.

 

I also learned that finding the right man is a journey in itself, a true challenge. His heart is what’s most important, since everything else eventually fades away with age. He might be a Brad Pitt look-a-like, own a yacht and 17 Porsches and take you out dancing every night, but if his core is rotten, then that includes everything else around it. Eventually he will rot from the inside-out.

 

All this to say that I have found my man. He isn’t tall, dark and handsome. He doesn’t use his charm or wit to get what he wants from me. He doesn’t own a car or even a house for that matter (never mind a yacht). But he is the only man I have ever truly wanted and needed in my life. He loves me for who I am and not how I look. He treats me with respect and appreciation every single day. He makes me laugh, no matter how tired or sad or angry I am. He is the only man that I fall in love with every time I lay eyes on him and still manages to take my breath away. And his heart is one of a kind; the only one made to compliment and endure my own.

 

He might look nothing like Brad Pitt, but hell, I’ve never liked Brad Pitt anyway, so who gives a s**t. I love you Justin and that’s that.

 

Reviews

[269]

And the reverse- so true & it is good you figured it out! charly

[watts]

one of my favorite subjects :). you tell it very well. as one ages (ugh) the truth of those fanciful thoughts of men fade to an unglamorous reality. but the beauty of love is transforming. not only to the man but the woman. fab write :)...namaste

[The Tao of Bri]

SENSATIONAL DEVOTION!!! GLORIOUS WRITE!!! What a testement to True Love! One more for the good column to balance out all the players!! YES!! Great job!

[C.L. Chandler]

I love this! It's absolutely true, and besides the fact that I agree with you, I gotta say that the way you set it up - from your original childhood ideal to the reality you've come to love - is powerful. this is the first thing I've read by you, and can't wait to read more!

[Billy]

Simply beautiful.

[Paza]

This is so sweet! I couldn't agree with you more...a true heart is the most important thing in a man...I'm glad you found yours! :-)