Indeed we have. That's the advantage of intellect. =)
Marsheika, I have been introduced to a new writer. Gonna check them out. I look forward to engrossing myself within your intellectual works. Your prowess is undeniable.
I understand your point Marsheika. I think the act of submission (your would-be door) affects an intellectual woman differently than it does a less intellectual woman. I find intelligent women are more adventurous in their sexcapades. She views the act as an opportunity to explore new dimensions of her carnal self, thus the 'wedge' you speak of is nonexistent, on the contrary, there is a psychological exuberance at whatever experience may come. I think back to my late teens when myself and a brilliant young lady were making our forays into adult love making. This young lady was a bit more intellectual than I (just a bit...hehe) and WAY more mature than I physically. There was a hesitancy for her in regards to losing her virginity. This psychological hindrance was not because of her self-image (I praised her nakedness) but because of the fact we were not married. Intellectually she understood that morally she should be giving her chaste self to her husband. She was also literally fascinated by the prospects of losing her virginity. Intellect won out over morals, and we were both the more happier for it. Was their some angst after the deed was done? Yes. I felt like Dr. Ruth Westheimer and the Pope all rolled up into one trying to keep her on an even keel as to why she decided to give me a most precious gift. She did feel guilt initially for submitting to, as you say, the ultimate submission/penetration. I blame the church for her woe!! But here is the benefit of being intelligent: I understood she was vulnerable in that moment and needed to be genuinely loved. We did fall in love for about two weeks, but we both understood that our sexcapades were based upon empirical findings about ourselves. She; being intelligent, was able to reconcile her Episcopalian upbringing with her natural human instincts without throwing herself from a cliff as Sappho did. Intellectually she understood she is an animal, and animals have sex in order to survive their species. No matter what any holy book says, procreation is a must if we are to survive as a species. I juxtapose this little story against one of my buddy attempting to do the same thing. Unfortunately for him he had a, well...dumb f**k (but that girl was so damn sexy!!! She must be doing porn today) and she went to pieces and told her father...oh the drama...it wasn't pretty. They laughed at me because I had an intelligent girlfriend who wore glasses. (glasses are a turn on for me) I understood though, that when it came to sex with a virgin, the last thing you want to be messed up with is an idiot, unless you are MARRIED to her.(parish the thought) I think psychologically the intelligent woman understands she is so much more than....bluntly....what's between her legs. Whereas the idiot female feels the highest expression of herself is her sex, only to be pure once. This is why the neuroses. She feels she is never worth anything more once she gives her 'greatest' gift away. The intelligent woman understands she can be a unchastened virgin 365 days a year if she so chooses. I think this syndrome is most socially on display in the customs of many Muslim societies. The woman is left uneducated, deflowered, and wrapped from head to toe, thus making her invisible(worthless). I understand suicide is quite common in Muslim female societies. The Muslim men understand an educated woman is a psychologically empowered woman and they do everything they can to suppress her free will. 'Will' being synonymous with empowerment. So yeah, I love your points made about the psychology of virginal sex; fascinating! I assert that to a large degree intellect plays a major role in a woman's sense of self worth. This understanding can mean the difference between a woman embracing being the center of a males attention and her ultimate acquiescence...the natural sexual balance of male/female relations. Or a moment that when a woman thinks back upon her defloration evokes memories of pain, regret and an ultimate loss of a sense of self-worth.
Yes Marsheika I quite agree. The physical aspect of sex goes without saying. I do speak of the psychological aspect of intercourse. I like your assertion that submission would also come to a female lover as well...gave me pause to ponder. The questions asked by the female as the act is being implemented are those regarding her physical body: "am I too fat" "is my body perfect for him" I feel these are normal questions that both the male and female ask themselves. The male is often very concerned about his prowess or endowment. This is quite interesting that the two lovers (although not stated explicitly for the male) are even concerning themselves with these trite questions. Those questions should have been explored during the courtship. The psychological neuroses could be alleviated if they both ask themselves: "does this person love me" (assuming the act is being promulgated on the basis of a loving relationship) "why when I look into his/her eyes do I feel as if this person is apart of me" "why do I feel so safe and assured when I am with this person" These are just some of the psychological questions that should be asked. The act should indeed be a mutual submission, but man is essentially a savage animal and both male and female revert to their primal selves during intercourse.
Why do I question your heroines sexuality? I don't question to belittle her...Marsheika, one would assume you feel female homosexuality is repugnant...Lesbianism is a fact of life. We can pretend it doesn't exist or get mad when we are presented with it, but it's just a waste of time. Lets face it, some men and women are born homosexual. I have been told by Lesbians that to submit to a man for sex is degrading. Even talking about sex with a man makes them uncomfortable. I offer this theory as a reason for your heroines extreme actions. I also contend that a chaste woman may feel her 'suitor' wasn't worthy of her gift and thus is racked with guilt. Psychologically she punishes herself for allowing herself to be deflowered by the male. She may have held on to her virginity for a couple decades and refused wily male attempts to take her only to have given herself to a sly male who she later realizes was not worthy of her...well, cherry (AO chuckles) This could lead to depression and ultimately an attempt at suicide. Such is the power of a damaged psyche.
Wow Marsheika! I knew PLEASE... NOT ESTHER was complex, but I had no idea!!! I knew there were sexual overtones to the piece, but I was not sure. Your explanation is on point as to my thinking. I love the mirror analogy. Your right...I think people put too much thought into the act. I speak of the neuroses you speak of. The act should be a liberation not a subjugation. This is why I feel the partner chosen to have the gift should be chosen wisely. In certain instances, I do feel the female is made to feel submissive. I also feel this is a natural thing, hence the neuroses in your piece...sounds as the female has a dominant spirit and indeed should carefully consider her sexuality. This is also natural. The heroin who committed suicide in your cliffs notes (hehe) may have in fact been lesbian. It seems to me that a woman would welcome liberating submission, sans any physical discomfort, although this is also an aspect of the liberation. Seems that if she is uncomfortable with a male she should seriously consider giving the gift to a female. This is unnatural, but this could also avert a tragic suicide.
A provoking and engrossing piece! I loved it!! Great job.
Thanx for the explanation. =)
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