Twilight's Disciples Forum What do you do when someone la..

I just recently reviewed a persons work, telling them what i liked and what i thought could use improvement. I thought i was very nice about it but they came back and lashed out at me. Have you had this happen to you before? If so, what did you do to solve it? (I just blocked the person because they were very nasty.)

Yes, I know what you mean! Occasionally, I have met people who take reviews personally! But, don't forget, there will always be a minority of people who write negative reviews - simply because they have taken a dislike to somebody. Indeed, it can be difficult to recognise when a reviewer is behaving out of sheer spite.

Another observation - I always appreciate some feedback, having written reviews for people. Or at least, just a click of the mouse in the review box, to indicate YES or NO. This also helps to increase your number of points, when fellow Group members click YES (if you are a new joiner and don't already know this)!

Well, there is no fixed system of dealing with reviews which are intended to offend (OR embarass). Blocking should only be a last resort, don't you think? Before that stage, just delete such people (if they are on your friends lists)! Prior to that, just answer them calmly and honestly. After all, a genuine review will often include a few observations, which the writer must simply accept! What do the rest of you think? Over to you!

Thankyou, for your NEW thread, Surreal!

 

Julian

Thank you Twilight. I wasn't sure if what I did was right but the guy started to harass me through the mail and I didn't know what to do so i blocked him. Thank you so much for the response, I really appreciate the support!

Personally? I ignore them. It's pointless to change people's opinion of words you have said with no other agenda but to help them get better... and sometimes people just don't want to admit they need help. So, I read the lashing out, bow gracefully, and just be on my way. Now, if the person keeps bugging me, I report them.

^_______^  A flower for you..  ----,----'---(@

I got blocked after giving a review to someone-and I'm not the only to have been blocked by him-just because I gave editing tips and said, in a very polite and fair way that he should work on his grammar.
Of course, this ended up with him slagging me off on someone else's page.

I ignored him. If you want to be published, you have to be able to take criticism. You can't expect everyone to love everything you do. If they can't handle it, then bigger fool them. I almost expect to be told to stick it by some younger writers (no offence at all to teenagers) because they are more... vitriolic (for want of a better word)  than an older person. I'm not saying that's bad, by the way. Be passionate, but understand that sometimes what is posted is flawed. What's wrong with a spare set of eyes? And why post it if you only want reviews like "You're amazing!" and "This is great!" (Those sort of reviews bug the hell out of me.)

People like that just aren't worth the time. All they want is sycophantic followers. If someone doesn't like a review I give, then tough. No one here is the center of my universe and I'll review how I like, I'll be fair but honest. 

I smile quietly to myself and send them a message similar to:

"I didn't mean to offend you, sorry if I did, feel free to ignore my comments and to ignore me in the future"

Afterwards one of three things happens,
1.- I never again hear about that person
2.- The person apologizes too and we become friends
3.- The person continue to lash out a little and then I never again hear about that person

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My instant reaction is to make a face and jerk back from the computer, thinking how immature. I take a deep breath and start laughing. They're so funny, all of them, how matter hard they try to wound you deeply.

I'll probably tell someone else so they can share the laugh, too.