The Resilient Forum What Makes You Sad?

Same as what makes you happy thread, just what makes you sad?

Reality's nature, and our extreme vulnerability because of it. Having to know that I can waste most of my cycles on this planet, and that it won't matter makes me sad...   That an entire year can pass, after which the sun, and so much else of nature has been enjoyed hour by hour, day by day in the spring and the summer, and this won't have mattered...  That we have to speak! That we have to have experienced so much emotional intensity, just to have experienced reasonable progress...      

What makes me sad? A million things...watching people go through pain. Getting yelled at in public because a very close family member thinks that I will fail in life...sorry, that's a recent unforgiven moment... 

I'm saddened when things are exactly as you expect them to be. I mean this in a negative light. When peoples behaviors become predictable, you ask yourself why did I think it was worth it to care for them.

I get you (even its being quite nuanced, what you've said). This is where life's contradiction becomes evident; reality is repetition, that goes without saying, but then so what that means is having to come to terms with its inevitable disappointments...  Which is fine! Think of it this way: because of reality's certainties, you have the certainty of being able to use your intelligence repeatedly..   Again, there is then contradiction: if life becomes about the overarching mission, or endeavour, how do you reconcile that with the day-to-day living of people around you? If day-to-day living is all that matters to them, how do you then not feel sad, feeling that you're living counter to them?     By acknowledging this!! That's how!!             Speak your mind!! Tell those you care about how you feel.   

What makes me sad is thinking about how, this actually really really makes me sad because I love animals, is thinking about humans torturing and abusing animals, because dogs, cats, animals can't say, "Ow, you're hurting me." They can't say to somebody, "Please, rescue me! My owner is hurting me!" And so I feel so bad about that. I can't even see one of those pet adoption commercials without crying. What also makes me sad is the question, "What am I going to do with my future?" Personally, I want to be a brain surgeon or a vet, but I sometimes wonder how I am going to achieve that.

Remembering to picture human beings the way they actually are, as well as sharing your concerns, I actually feel the same way towards us: our common way isn't to indulge this way of thought, however remembering that people are creatures as well, it can make me sad...     We're vulnerable! More vulnerable than other lifeforms in fact, as despite being part of the same mechanical, incessant reality, we're beings with far, far higher levels of awareness of reality's nature.         

I agree with a lot of what people say here. Like I said, I'm going to add a post to this forum and the other 2 to reply to each individual poster, but as of right now, this is my generalization. I get sad over seeing others suffer as you do Luvs2Write. It hurts, whether they are being hurt by others or just by circumstances. I get sad also when I think of my Father or my Brother or Sister (whom most don't even know I have) as well as family in general. I also get sad about a lot of other things, but recently I get sad just over the smallest things, even things that aren't that bad. Such as something as simple as someone getting a math problem wrong, I'll feel my heart reach out to them. From something as small as that to large things like the wars in the Middle East, lots makes me sad. I just try to deal with it, but for some reason I think about the world, and worry over what I can't change. The only thing I can do is pray.

When people pretend to be my friend only to betray me in the end. Oh and also when I tell someone something that means so much to me and they don't even care.

Wow, C.G. I completely agree with you. That can be the worst betrayal, to not even care. And people shouldn't pretend to be friends, they truly should be, they should care. Don't worry, I'm your friend. And I'm not pretending.

Reply to RF. You know what gets people to change? A disruption of the usual context..   And that's the challenge! Having the will to speak or behave out of usual context!  Can a person change the world? Yes! To do so however means having to treat reality as what it is (as hard as doing that is!): a project, designed to be improved upon. 

Not having a purpose and meaning. Just wandering into nothingness and just falling prey to the entropy of the universe and the hole of our fears. 

This is the conundrum. The truer a person wants to be, the more they have to recognise reality's true condition..     The answer is incorporation. Like writing a story, the author realises that for A and B, C therefore has to be included..    This is the way as to how to live! Accept the actual state, in all its existences, and navigate your way from there.  Hope this helps. 

I kind of agree with you. You have to see things as they really are. Anyways, I was wondering, where are the other 55 members? No one else wishes to post?

hello..it seems that introduction is d most difficult greeting of all..i was literally  in tears when i found this group that finally will respect what's goin on in me which most people seem not to understand. first of thank you all!

You're not alone!   Reality is a contradiction; it wants us to progress, but keeps us the same day to day..  The solution is awareness! Find solace in your being able to post as you have. That you've in the first place sought to communicate your feelings and thoughts..  When I communicate with someone, I "see" the future me, the "me" that's sat right here, right now, 24 hours from now; thus I'm able to communicate. I'm able to articulate..   The solution's incorporation; your very awareness is your answer.     

When you know someone is in pain, and you can do nothing, except watch helplessly as they slip further and further away...

We all share this kind of experience. Vexing, isn't it?   If I say, reality's very condition is what keeps us day to day from being our best, what you said ties into it..  Reality 100% identically repeats, meaning instead of each day building upon the last, it never does: our natural condition is to feel unable to help, as to otherwise do so is to mean contradicting reality's repetition..     Take your own post, in fact! Once I read it, my first impulse was to reply, however just as soon as I experienced that impulse I experienced apprehension (would you even want me to reply to your post? If perhaps so, how much?). The cerebral me wants to help, giving you a contribution of ideas. The creature me however feels restraint, thinking about the future..  Because reality never changes, we're having to always be preoccupied with the future, suppressing a desire to help, understanding doing so to mean causing no alarm to the overarching status quo..     People can be helped! It takes however cerebral arrangement, developing the capacity to incorporate more and more of all of reality's character and matter around you.           

I agree Zabella, that hurts more than anything... but you just have to do your best and help in whatever way you can.

When you're hurt, broken, crying on the inside, and every time someone asks if you're okay you say you're fine and they accept it and walk away. All I really want is that one person who will look you in the eye and tell you they know that you're not.Don't know if anyone else ever has that feeling but....